It’s rare that people have such good relationship karma that they truly (without any self-deception) have a solid, happy, fulfilling, compatible, monogamous, life-long relationship.

Yes, there are many couples who stay together for years and years, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is or has always been compatible or harmonious. It’s very common for couples to stay together and turn into roommates with wedding rings because they fear being alone, having less money, or for other reasons.

Love is forever, but most relationships are not. By this we mean that love is the glue that draws people together again and again throughout lifetimes. Couples usually meet again primarily, from a spiritual perspective, for learning lessons and personal growth instead of just for romance and companionship. When those lessons are fulfilled, it may be time to move on.

However, in our society, great emphasis is placed upon relationship longevity. A relationship or marriage is considered to have “failed” if it didn’t last a lifetime. This way of thinking not only sets everyone up for disappointment, but is unrealistic.

Nobody expects their first job out of high school or college to last forever, or that every friendship will never end, and dropping such expectations for love relationships is wise, in our opinion. Everyone changes and grows at different rates and has different lessons to learn. You can’t cast someone for a relationship theatrical production and expect them to fit comfortably into that role for a lifetime.

Sometimes people are meant to be single for a while for some reason other than it just being about bad relationship karma.

Your life circumstances are reflected in your numerological and astrological timing, which is different for everyone. Sometimes you’ll have rewarding love timing, meaning more fulfilling and compatible relationships, and sometimes you won’t, and some people have much more of it than others throughout their lives. If you don’t like the way things are going now, they’ll eventually change. If you are curious about when your love timing will get better, comprehensive numerology and astrology offer tremendous insight.

Our unique delineation and prediction work tell us that relationships, and how long they last, are destined. We’re referring to the energy between two people that makes them fascinated with one another and when the appeal (sexual and otherwise) is still there months and years later, as it was in the initial stages of the connection, not the type of relationship where two people know that it’s “over,” but stay together anyway.

Therefore, it’s best to try to let go of expectations for “permanence” when becoming involved in a relationship and just accept the situation for what and how long it is meant to be. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to work out problems (since working out problems is a major reason why you’re together in the first place), just that it’s better to go with the flow.

What about some “experts” telling you that you can have a life-long relationship and that all you have to do is keep it “new” and “fresh?” Yes, perhaps some of these techniques can help renew an already relatively strong connection, but they won’t revive something that’s dead or inspire what was never there in the first place.

It may be difficult, but try to be grateful for the time you’ve spent with compatible matches in the past, what you’ve learned from the more challenging relationships you’ve had, and perhaps most important, the benefits of alone time when you’re not in a relationship. Expressing gratitude has a magical way of helping to let go of the past and welcoming more positive experiences into the present.

Copyright © 2006 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo