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Can Two People Be Incompatible?

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Sometimes people are drawn together like magnets, yet the compatibility is questionable. It’s not smooth sailing to say the least, and trying to make it permanent is akin to strapping a 45lb weight to your back for the rest of your life.

Might the inability to part ways, the intense draw, be a mysterious working of fate? Yes. “Soul mate” connections very often include plenty of strife and heavy lessons, without the presumed romantic bliss.

Based on our comprehensive astrology and numerology work, two people can absolutely be incompatible, yet they may stay together for other reasons. Know that person A might have great overall compatibility with person B, but not with person C. Varying, unique degrees of intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical and sexual compatibility exist between every couple.

Despite a lack of compatibility, some such couples say no amount of effort is too much to save a relationship if they are deeply in love. We recommend looking at what “deeply in love” really means to you.

What exactly do you feel for the person and why? Is there an early life, dysfunctional dynamic being played out for either or both of you? Is the connection held together by guilt due to one or both of you being afraid to walk away? Exactly how much sacrifice is involved for you or him? Is it really a great connection, or is it more about what they do for you or voids they fill for you? Are you afraid to be alone? Are you concerned about financial security? You’ve got to be brutally honest with yourself if you want clarity.

Every person you meet is for a different reason, or reasons. It’s not easy to overrule your heart and be totally objective in your romantic life, but it will save you heartache. Dating is easier when you accept each situation for what it is instead of trying to cast a play (husband or wife role, provider, etc.).

To help you understand more about romantic compatibility, we’ll list some of our findings. We have yet to invalidate the following considerations through our extensive work over the years: some romantic connections include questionable compatibility, but the shared or compatible timing (long-term or short-term) serves as the foundation of the draw; some connections are horrible, but the “unexplainable” draw is intense and serves to help them fulfill the karmic implications of this particular “soul mate” connection (one or both “owe” each other in not so pleasant ways); some people have great life-long love karma, some people have fair life-long love karma, and others have terrible life-long love karma; one’s personal timing (long-term and, or short-term), if very good in relation to love-life, can symbolically, somewhat mitigate one’s life-long challenging love-life karma; one’s personal timing, if very challenging in connection with love, can symbolically wreck one’s love life even if they have great life-long love karma (as reflected in the patterns in the comprehensive charts).

We feel that a highly compatible match does not need a lot of “work” or compromise. If you are complete by yourself and have your life together, finding someone to share it with should not require you to give up your goals, friends, hobbies, or what you’ve worked hard for.

At the same time, compatible, harmonious matches that also share a high degree of sexual chemistry are few and far between for most people. Some people would rather be with someone who is semi-compatible, or not compatible at all instead of being alone. Others are content to be alone and concentrate on other areas of their life, like career, until they meet someone they feel is worth sharing their time with. It’s up to you, yet our work tells us that people are largely going to do what they are predestined to do, so as long as you remain objective and respond with compassion and unconditional love, you’ll be fine.

Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

“Best Astrology Matches for Me?”

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Instead of considering only astrological Sun signs, we believe that the comprehensive astrology and numerology charts must be scrutinized if one wants to consider true personality, compatibility, and personal timing (prediction and forecasting), to find your best astrology matches.

Also, thorough handwriting analysis done by a well-trained professional adds a great deal of additional insight about subconscious character, much of which that can’t be found through modern, psychological astrology.

On the surface, you may think you have great astrological compatibility on paper with two seemingly easy-going, compassionate people (signified in part, for example, by both having an abundance of Pisces and Cancer energy).

However, it’s discovered that one has very compressed, narrow, extreme right-slanted, sharp, angular, heavy pressure script with rigid baselines and downward slanting, weak-ending, pointed letter t-bars. Plus, strong patterns of over-balanced “8” and “1” energy are found in the comprehensive numerology charts. All of this with other corroborating information alerts the analyst to the strong possibility of that person being a domineering abuser.

The other person’s comprehensive charts involve, in part, lots of under-balanced “2” energy which suggests dependency and self-deprecation. In support of these notions, that person’s script includes martyr/victim traits such as small overall script size, light writing pressure, close word spacing, excessively rounded and immature-looking writing, droopy rhythm and connectives between letters, pinched circle letters, low and weakly crossed letter t-bars back to the left instead of to the right, and x-formations where the letter x is not present.

In this case, a surface astrology interpretation would unfortunately leave open the potential for a very toxic, if not dangerous match.

An aside, psychology was not part of astrology until about 100 years ago. The approximately 2000 year tradition of the science of astrology involves mostly prediction instead of psychological character analysis.

Unfortunately, in our view, most astrology found today in print or on-line is primarily modern, psychological astrology, and involves a frivolous and distorted approach to the science.

Astrology that’s largely for entertainment only (although usually not presented as such) includes, for example, Sun or Moon sign horoscopes, and readings done by astrologers who commonly promote falsehoods such as, “…(numerology or) astrology isn’t predestination or fate…how things play out is going to be up to you,” stated to cover a refusal to do in-depth delineation, or mask an inability to do accurate prediction.

Some popular modern astrologers even go so far as to offensively suggest escapism, wishful thinking, self-fulfilling prophesies, and a failure to take responsibility for one’s actions and life in response to the idea that some astrologers and numerologists (like us) say it’s possible to measure and outline personal fate (i.e., impart the general inclination of fate, and frequently, even precise future circumstances and events). Worse, they deny that fate exists, and also deny the reality that varying degrees of unavoidable adversity (which is also measurable) in people’s lives serves a divine purpose.

The truth is that their form of astrology or numerology isn’t about predestination or fate and that original ancient predictive astrology and numerology are absolutely about predestination and fate.

It’s ironic how fully embracing the concepts of karma and fate is directly related to taking responsibility for one’s actions and that much of the modern astrology found today offers mainly an escape from the hard realities of life.

Reviewing Sun Signs, Moon Signs, or any other individual aspect without considering the rest of the charts’ contents and patterns within those charts, will only give you surface insight. It tells you virtually nothing about the reality of the personality, or the compatibility between you and another person.

For example, the Sign of Aquarius is considered to be relatively harmonious with the Sign of Sagittarius. If you select ten random people with Aquarius Sun Signs and match them with ten people with Sagittarius Sun Signs, it’s entirely possible that none of them will get along with each other. It’s also entirely possible that all of them will get along.

The best romantic matches for a Libra Sun and Cancer Moon combination, for instance, depends entirely upon the health of the respective planets (strong and well, or involving afflictions including planets in detriment, badly aspected planets, weak house placement, retrogrades, etc.), their rulers and the health of those rulers, along with the rest of the several hundred aspects, and patterns comprised of those aspects, throughout the comprehensive charts of each person.

It’s possible for a person with a Libra Sun and Cancer Moon, for example, to have wonderful compatibility with a person with an Aries Sun and Capricorn Moon, both oppositions.

Oppositions are commonly considered to involve poor compatibility, but sometimes very close oppositions (opposing planets that are very tightly aspected by a degree or two, within the compatibility charts) offer more reward than challenge, especially if the remaining composite contents are harmonious.

Oppositions are as follows:

Aries is opposed to Libra.

Taurus is opposed to Scorpio.

Gemini is opposed to Sagittarius.

Cancer is opposed to Capricorn.

Leo is opposed to Aquarius.

Virgo is opposed to Pisces.

Conjunctions, same sign combinations, represent intensification of the sign’s energy, and is sometimes positive and sometimes negative. Generally, it’s a “hard” aspect, and not as easy flowing as trines and sextiles.

Although we feel that modern astrology places too much emphasis on Ptolemaic aspects, it’s good to have an understanding of them.

The basic, major Ptolemaic aspects include oppositions (180 degree angle), conjunctions (0 degree angle), squares (90 degree angle), trines (120 degree angle), and sextiles (60 degree angle).

Square aspects are combinations of signs that are of different elements (see below), like Taurus with Leo, and generally indicate challenge and tension. Trine aspects are combinations of signs that are of the same element, such as Scorpio with Pisces (both water), and are generally agreeable. Sextile aspects are combinations of signs that are of compatible, but different, elements such as Cancer with Virgo, or Leo with Libra, and are also generally favorable.

If you accept the trivial approach of reviewing only the Sun and Moon signs, which might offer a preview at best, then it’s good to look at the elemental combinations of the signs for some basic awareness.

On the surface, fire and air are harmonious, and earth and water are harmonious. In addition, each element commonly mixes well with itself (fire and fire, etc.).

Fire signs are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius.

Earth signs are Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn.

Air signs are Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius.

Water signs are Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces.

A surface approach will involve Libra Sun, Cancer Moon compatibility with an air or fire Sun, along with a water or earth Moon, but that’s just the beginning.

If you want to go a little deeper, yet still not get into comprehensive analysis, considering the nature of the sign is also helpful (Fixed, Mutable, or Cardinal), as is considering the masculine or feminine nature of the sign (fire and air are masculine, and earth and water are feminine).

We also strongly recommend contemplating each person’s personal timing when considering compatibility. Personal timing, comprised of scores of short, medium, and long-term continuous and non-continuous numerological and astrological cyclical timing methods, regularly symbolically makes or breaks relationships. The collective cycles can be divided into groups that are the basis for pattern recognition.

Two people can seemingly have nothing in common aside from their current personal time cycles (some as short as a day, others as long as many years), and when those time cycles change, the relationship changes, or even dissolves.

It should be noted that we understand that it is possible for someone who has strong, solid psychic ability and a good, general understanding of astrology to successfully use Sun and Moon signs exclusively as psychic touchstones.

But few have this talent where they can get consistent, accurate reads without a comprehensive approach.

Again, an astrologer must consider all comprehensive charts in determining compatibility, along with the comprehensive timing charts, and not just the Sun and Moon signs if one really wants to uncover existing compatibility. Again, we have found that you also must consider the comprehensive numerology charts, along with handwriting analysis (subconscious fears and defenses, etc.), if you want a high level of accuracy.

A skeptic saying that they “…don’t believe in astrology,” to us, is a reasonable and understandable statement if they have only been exposed to Sun Sign astrology, which is the basis for most astrology horoscopes today.

Comparing Sun Sign astrology to an in-depth analysis as referred to in the above paragraphs is like comparing conspiracy theory half-truths to confirmed CIA intelligence.

Copyright © 2006 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo