Valentine’s day can be a wonderful day for happy couples. But what about everyone else? We don’t mean to be a downer for those of you who are romance fans, but it can be one of the most depressing days of the year for a large percentage of the population that is single or unhappily involved. Below are some tips to make it a little more bearable.
1) If you’re under the age of 30, be grateful for the time you have to focus on yourself, your goals, and discovering what works for you in a relationship, rather than trying to make one “permanent” at such a young age. Why? Think about how much you changed in your teens, and how people often change a lot in their 20s. People grow and change at different rates, so you likely won’t be as compatible with someone you knew at 20 when you’re 35 or 50.
2) Did someone you love not want to be together anymore? Be grateful they’ve freed you for a more compatible soul mate.
3) Was there “one who got away?” Consider that it wasn’t meant to be and even that it might not have been that great if you had gotten to know each other well.
4) Change the phrase “love of my life,” to “love of my life so far,” in reference to the one you lost, since everyone has multiple soul mates. This won’t make your past lover inconsequential since all relationships are unique and for different purposes. Be excited about other opportunities out there.
5) The death of a loved one is never easy to deal with, but have faith you will meet again, in the afterlife, or in a future life.
If you’re perceptive enough, you may not have to wait and will be able to sense when they check in with or watch over you, and that they want you to move on, be happy, and even meet someone new.
6) Try not to be envious of seemingly happy couples. Appearances are deceiving; you never know what’s really going on behind the scenes, and sometimes one or both of them don’t either. If you could perceive what we do about many couples you might be surprised.
7) Realize that timing is key. If you don’t like your love life, know that love life timing changes; things may be completely different a year from now. Do what you can to improve yourself and your situation now so you’re ready when your fate is more in line with what you want.
8) Accept that self love is far more important than romantic love. You are all you need, even if you don’t realize it yet. Your unique light shines more brilliantly than any star, if only you would accept and nurture it. Respect, appreciate, and treat yourself like you would someone with whom you are deeply in love.
9) Realize you are never really alone. There is so much love on the other side that it’s like every day is Valentine’s day. Meditate regularly to tap into this and you’ll feel more complete on your own.
10) Don’t forget your friends and family. It’s impossible for one person to give you all you need for a long period of time. Many of your friends and family are your platonic soul mates. Tell them how much you cherish them.
11) Consider that being single is underrated. Have you ever noticed that most super-heroes are single? How about wise witches and sages? Or people like Mother Teresa? Your path may require you to be single at times. Once you accept this and learn to enjoy being single, you’ll begin to perceive traditional relationships and dating in a new light.
Copyright © 2013 Stephen Petullo, Scott Petullo