Category Archives: Karma

How to Get What You Deserve in Life

A friend recently told us that he is waking up to the fact that what you think you deserve may not be what you merit, and that it’s a hard lesson to learn.

Although he’s considered successful by almost everyone in his professional and personal life, it was instilled in him early on in his life, and during school, that he deserved the very best. The sky was the limit and he believed it.

Yet as the years went by, he couldn’t break into the six figure salary realm no matter what he did in his career, and his personal life wasn’t free of the challenges that he thought that were beneath him.

In time, as he grew wiser, he realized that his expectations were too high, his income isn’t necessarily a reflection of who he is as a person, and he accepted that what he earns may not equal what he felt he deserved.

Tips to Prevent the Hard Lesson of Finding Out That Getting What You Deserve is Less Than The Best Life Has to Offer

1. Begin to accept that you might very well have exactly what you deserve, at this time. What you think you deserve is your opinion, a completely subjective viewpoint. Set important goals in life, strive every day to achieve them, and know that the journey is often more important than the result.

2. By all means, keep dreaming and dream big, but keep your expectations in check.

The world needs taxi drivers, cooks, construction workers, house-keepers, and other workers. Such professions are as honorable as any other, and your career doesn’t make you more or less equal to anyone; everyone is of the same spiritual essence. How you view your situation can make a significant difference, and in a spiritual sense, things aren’t always as they appear in the mundane world.

For example, someone in a seemingly unimportant job may have an extremely important spiritual role in the lives of people around her. Likewise, someone who society deems a prestigious professional and makes millions per year may be, spiritually speaking, a beginner soul who is not learning his lessons.

3. Accept what you can’t change, but do everything you can to enhance your life and get more of what you want. Develop a detached perspective; do your best to avoid judgment and be grateful for as much as you can in your life.

4. Avoid an excessive sense of entitlement. There is no such thing as inequality. Life is not supposed offer equal outcomes (equal rights and opportunity are another matter).

5. Take glorified inspirational messages in mainstream media and entertainment with a grain of salt, such as the one in the movie “Superman, Man of Steel,” which went something like this: “Superman came to Earth to empower people to rise above all challenges, to become empowered to fulfill their potential and avoid the limits that society places on them.”

Nobody is holding you down, and nobody places limits on you, unless you live in a communist country. Life will always include personal adversity and you have free will to make the most of it.

6. Stop living beyond your means. If you think you deserve the finest life has to offer, you better avoid spending like it unless you have the cash, not credit, to do so. Otherwise, when you find out you don’t deserve the finest life has to offer and lack the cash to pay your bills, you’ll have credit problems.

7. Practice humility, which is spiritual. A humble person never has the shock and disappointment of finding out she’s not the center of the universe, and that she isn’t entitled to what she previously thought.

The good news is that even though you can’t always get what you think you deserve, life becomes more enjoyable when you focus on being grateful for what you have in life instead of what you lack.

The Truth About Money and Karma

5 Replies

The truth about money and karma is buried in mountains of misinformation.

Those who reject and, or ridicule the concepts of karma and reincarnation will probably criticize some of what we write below. Regardless, we believe it is important to contrast some of the more popular misconceptions with what we perceive as the truth about money and karma based on our empirical research.

Myth #1: “Positive thinking and gratitude can make anything possible and change your money karma.”

Many New Agers believe this, thanks in part to the myths perpetuated in the best-selling book The Secret.

Unfortunately, our findings show that this is patently false. The truth about money and karma is that you can’t change karma, but you have free will to react to it.

Money karma is the result of your actions regarding money partly in this life, but mostly in past lives. Most people neglect to consider past lives in relation to karma or even at all, but we’ve found they are absolutely linked and you can’t have one without the other. Don’t believe in past lives? We recommend experiencing past life regression before tossing aside the theory. Otherwise, you’re basing your opinion on a limited understanding of the subject.

The good news is that a positive attitude, taking action assertively, efficiently, and wisely, and expressing a feeling of gratitude for what you have rather than dwelling on lack can somewhat influence your level of abundance and help you make the most of your karma and fated situations.

Myth #2: “It’s okay to steal from the rich to help the poor.”

The truth about money and karma is that stealing from someone will always cause you negative karma, no matter how rich that person is.

Myth #3: “If you’re born poor you’re being punished for past life actions.”

Karmic circumstances are never a punishment from a judgmental God or anyone else. Being born into a poor family may be related to negative past life actions having to do with money, but it’s usually not. Instead, the soul’s intention might be, in this particular lifetime, to learn more about discipline, scarcity, self-reliance or other matters, for example.

Myth #4: “Rich people are creating negative money karma for not sharing the wealth.”

The truth about money and karma is that being wealthy does not create negative karma, nor does not sharing your money with every person who is less fortunate.

Donating money to those truly in need and helping when you can, however, will create positive karma.

Myth #5: “Some people are just lucky to be born into a wealthy family because they did nothing to deserve it.

It may appear that way, but the truth about money and karma is that your life circumstances, even being born wealthy, are no accident.

A soul born into a rich family may not have done so to avoid having to experience scarcity, just like a soul born into a poor family may not have done so to experience scarcity. They may have chosen the situation mainly for other reasons, though he or she has likely earned it. For example, he lived through many lifetimes of sacrifice and hard work for little or no pay and has incarnated this time around to work on other karmic issues. Or, over several lifetimes, she finally worked out all her karma having to do with money, including the reprehensible lifetime in Asia as a thief, way back in history, ripping off everyone she could.

The truth about money and karma is that those who are complaining the loudest about “rich brats,” for instance, were very likely rich brats in past lives and abused their privilege. The scarcity they feel now was earned from irresponsibility in previous lives and they are creating even more negative karma now by condemning the rich.

We understand the frustration over not having enough money. Many people work very hard and don’t overspend, yet they still can’t get ahead due to unplanned expenses.

Instead of comparing yourself to people who have more, you’re better off focusing on feeling grateful for what you do have. If you have a place to sleep and never go hungry, you are richer than many people in the world.

The truth about money and karma is that everyone is on a different path, each person’s spiritual back-story isn’t always obvious, and it’s best to express compassion and acceptance rather than judgment since everyone has their own unique set of challenges to deal with.

Related Articles:
How to Use Gratitude to Your Advantage

Freedom From Negative Karma – 10 Tips

5 Falsehoods About Spirituality and Money

Why Inequality is Not What it Seems

Finding Your Perfect Career

Money and karma: You Won’t Gain Negative Karma With These 7 Things

The Power of Gratitude

Spirituality, karma, and Cheating in Relationships — Pros and Cons

11 Replies

The statistics of recurring studies around the world show that cheating in relationships is far more common than everyday appearances let on; an average of 45% of respondents claim to have cheated in a relationship, and that doesn’t include those who haven’t admitted to an affair or fling.

Check out the various types of married people who cheat or think about cheating.

Recently, we received this question regarding cheating in relationships: “Once you are in a marriage, the only ethical way to have sex with other woman is divorce. Am I right? Especially if the wife no longer wants sex and is not ok for polygamous relation. Can you clarify what best can be done in such a situation?”

His problem is that he wants to cheat in his relationship, but he’s concerned about the consequences.

A few pros for cheating:
1. He’ll get to scratch that itch, and many people will agree it can be an overwhelming itch.
2. It may lessen the strife in his relationship because he’ll no longer be concerned about getting his sexual needs met by his spouse, since she has lost interest in sex and, or they are no longer attracted to each other (which is common in many long-term relationships).
3. It may broaden his horizons and allow for spiritual growth. How can this be, you ask? We believe that you learn something new about yourself through every single relationship, no matter the duration. That’s right, having multiple sexual partners can contribute to spiritual growth.

A few points against cheating:
1. He may incur negative karma by doing so; future lifetimes may find him on the receiving end of infidelity, feeling the pain exactly to the degree he inflicted it in prior lives.
2. He may destroy his current relationship by cheating.
3. He may harm his reputation by cheating.
4. If he doesn’t practice safe sex, he risks STDs or unplanned pregnancies.

Nobody likes to be cheated on in relationships, but his situation (like many other relationships) may be more complex than how we address it above.

For example, it’s possible his spouse may already be cheating on him; there exist many forms of infidelity besides having sex with someone other than your spouse. But justifying his cheating with her infidelity doesn’t negate karmic consequences, it only makes them more complicated.

He asks about an “ethical” way to have sex with another woman outside of his marriage. That depends on what ethical refers to.

In relation to his marriage vows, accumulating negative karma, what others will think, or his religion? Ethics is too often subjective.

He wants to know what’s the best way to have sex with other women without crossing any red lines. Again, it’s complicated, but we offer some suggestions below.

One option is to divorce, though that may not be possible in his culture.

He may want to stay together due to finances or children. Not surprisingly, his wife is against the idea of an open relationship, but if he shows her examples of how an arrangement can work, and makes sure there are benefits for her too, she may reconsider. Such a situation works much better if they agree on rules ahead of time to ensure mutual respect.

As a last resort, if she refuses to compromise and he’s okay with a partner cheating on him in a future life, (since this is the karma he may very well incur for himself if he follows the common cheating in relationships standard), he should feel free to cheat.

The Myth About Vegetarian Diet and Spirituality

Leave a reply

It’s common for people in the New Age arena to believe the myth about a vegetarian diet and spirituality, that it’s necessary to become enlightened.

The pro-vegetarianism contention goes something like this: “I am 100% for life and I love animals, so I avoid eating meat. Animals are my friends. Why would you eat your friends? A vegan diet brings more peace and enlightenment to every living being.”

Or, the argument goes like this: “Eating meat is akin to murder. Plus, it’s too heavy; plants are much lighter and better for your body, thus, your spirituality is enhanced on a strict vegetarian diet.”

Never mind that there’s never been a strict vegetarian civilization in the history of the planet that has survived for any length of time.

If it’s true that eating meat is murder, that means that most animals, including humans, are murderers. That bacteria, those cute little micro-organisms you just killed by washing your hands? That makes you a murderer too, as does killing plants, which are also living organisms.

About twenty years ago, we learned firsthand about the myth of a vegetarian diet and spirituality. We avoided animal products for many months. Even though we took a careful approach, including doing internal cleansing along with the diet transition, in time we realized it’s a dysfunctional diet for our body type.

A strict vegetarian diet brings you closer to God all right–it decimates your health if you stay on it long enough. It saps your energy, makes you vitamin deficient (e.g., vitamin a, and b-vitamins), and eventually, makes most people look and feel unhealthy.

It was very telling how much energy we had, bouncing off the walls, when we first had a vitamin b-12 supplement, after not having animal products for a long time–we were vitamin b-12 deficient. Unfortunately, supplements and toxic substances like processed, unfermented soy aren’t good, long-term substitutes for the nutrition your body needs.

The concept of a vegetarian diet and spirituality has been warped beyond recognition, in our view.

Don’t get us wrong, we do believe short-term vegetarianism can be very healthy, such as doing a vegetable juice fast for a while. We’ve done three week herbal cleanses (no meat or animal products, no starches, etc.) that we believe have been very helpful for detoxification and our overall health.

Dr. Mercola of mercola.com advocates a vegan-rich diet, along with free-range, chemical-free meats. He claims that only less than 30% of the population has the body type that tolerates strict vegetarianism, or veganism. We believe it may be lower than 30%, based on our observations. Even those who say, “I had my blood-work done, it shows I’m fine,” may be fine for now, but the longer you avoid vitamin rich animal products, the more likely your health may suffer.

Here’s a video from a former vegetarian who speaks of the dangers of a strict vegan diet. She says that after a year of an approximately 95% vegan diet, she felt great, but then her health began to decline.

It’s astonishing how many people buy into the vegetarian diet and spirituality myth and erroneously believe it’s more spiritual, when the exact opposite is true for most people.

We’ve meditated regularly and undertaken other spiritual disciplines, such as Reiki, for many years and we can assure you that eating a diet that works for your body, even if it includes animal products, won’t negatively affect your spiritual growth or cause you to incur negative karma.

While it’s true that it’s not easy to meditate and get closer to your God-self (or higher-self, etc.) after eating a huge steak dinner, avoiding meat altogether is likely to negatively affect your health over the long-term.

It’s okay to have believed the falsehood about a strict vegetarian diet and spirituality, but now you should act on the truth.

Take This Quiz–How Do You Get to Heaven

Leave a reply

How do you get to heaven? Will you be turned away? Take this short quiz and find out.

Answer “yes” or “no” if you’ve ever done any of the following: cursed; eaten meat; enjoyed any of the finer things in life, such as designer clothing or expensive meals; used numerology, astrology, tarot cards, or consulted a psychic; listened to and enjoyed music other than religious music; failed to attend religious services on a regular basis; questioned your religious leader; danced in public; been intoxicated; worn clothing that revealed your legs; worn platform heels; worn clothing of the opposite sex; looked at porn; touched yourself in an impure manner; had sex for the purpose of satisfaction rather than reproduction; had sex outside of marriage; had a sexual dream about someone other than your partner; had a homosexual experience; received or fantasized about receiving, either directly or indirectly, money for sex; paid for sex, either directly or indirectly; had an open relationship; divorced.

If you have done any of the above, congratulations! You’re human. None of these actions generate negative karma.

Next, consider if you’ve ever done any of these things: condemned others for being homosexual, bisexual, transgender, or of a different race; lied; cheated; manipulated or intentionally hurt another; stolen something.

These actions directly above, among others, create negative karma and you’ll have to balance it, eventually.

How do you get to heaven? Or for that matter, what about hell? Does it really exist? In all of our past life regression and life-between-life empirical research over the last 25 years, we’ve never seen any evidence of hell.

However, a small percentage of people who have experienced NDEs (near death experiences) have reported they perceived a place that seemed like hell, complete with people being tortured and an evil presence.

Were those people really in hell, and did they not get the “how do you get to heaven” memo?

In our opinion, in each case we’ve seen or read about, it seemed to us that it was a situation where their guides and subconscious mind created an illusion that would help them to straighten out their life, their mind created a vision based on their religious programming, or it was the result of experiencing lower astral planes, sometimes due to a drug overdose or other factors. Interestingly, in many of these cases, when the person yelled out to a higher power, like God, to help them, they immediately left the place that seemed like hell.

Rather than a final destination that’s reserved only for the religious elite, heaven seems to be a temporary place where all souls go after death of the body in order to review, rest, learn, and plan for the next incarnation.

As for the question, “how do you get to heaven,” our findings show that, in general, if you treat others as you want to be treated, you will create positive karma and future experiences that are closer to heaven on earth.

What You Need to Know About Your Karma

Leave a reply

Karma is one of the most popular spiritual topics, and for a good reason; people want to know how to improve their karma, thus make their lives better. People also want to avoid the nasty surprise of bad karma.

However, there seems to be a lot of confusion about karma, what goes around (what you do, say, or intend) comes around (will come back to you), and how it really works.

Recently, we received the following question via e-mail: “If I defend myself when someone is being nasty or violent, am I creating bad karma by fighting back? The line seems blurred to me sometimes and I’m not always in a position to apologize.”

Our viewpoint, based on our empirical research, is that you don’t create bad karma by defending yourself. If you believe your life is in danger, you won’t incur negative karma by fighting back to save your life. Though avoiding guilt may not be easy if you kill someone, even in self-defense, for example. Even guilt from a self-defense situation can cause future karma.

The inquiry continues, “Is there any way to know in any given situation if I’m creating bad karma? People have cursed my family and children out of anger. Is that bad karma for them? What if I were to do the same because they crossed the line and said something terrible about my children or even about me? My sister in law recently accused me of being a gold digger and it took ever ounce of restraint not to hit back with something just as nasty.”

If your intent is to hurt another person and it’s not done out of self-defense, you will create negative karma. However, if you believe it’s not such a big deal to be called names, for example, maybe you shouldn’t worry too much about incurring this sort of karma if you hit back, as you say.

It’s important to note that if someone is playing the victim and claims you hurt them, you won’t necessarily incur negative karma from that situation. For instance, a young woman claims that her boyfriend created bad karma because he broke up with her; she’s devastated, so she believes he has it coming. Wrong. As long as he broke it off peacefully and didn’t make any false promises he didn’t intend to keep, for example, he’s free of karma.

Her final question was, “How will karma ‘retaliate’ when you do or say something bad? Or like Ghandi, am I suppose to turn the other cheek?”

In our view, karma is like an invisible shadow that follows you around forever, through successive lifetimes, until you balance it.

Karma is your “good” and “bad” baggage earned from the recent and distant past, over multiple lifetimes. All actions, words, thoughts, and intent will return to you, and not necessarily in this life. Because of karma, no one “gets away with” anything; the eyes of truth are always watching.

Seeking justice in a violent or otherwise negative way will create negative karma. You always have the option of rising above the negativity, being mature and reasonable, and responding diplomatically.

A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself, “Would I feel okay being on the receiving end of this action, intent, or these words?” If you’re okay with it, then do it, but keep in mind that the more negative energy you generate, the more time you may have to spend balancing it in future incarnations.

We understand the desire to want to lash out in response to a perceived injustice, but you don’t need to do that. Karma will catch up with the person, if the situation is how you perceive it to be.

The Real Truth About Soul Mates

2 Replies

One of the most popular topics in the New Age arena, and also in the mundane marketplace, is soul mates. It’s a very lucrative subject for New Age marketers, and they frequently promote the myth that everyone has the perfect match out there somewhere and all you have to do is take a few simple spiritual steps to attract your match and live happily ever after.

It sounds wonderful, but unfortunately this premise is rooted in illusion. The truth can sting a bit at first, but you will ultimately be more successful in your love life if you put aside idealism and high expectations, and that’s why we want to tell you what we’ve found.

The results of our empirical research clearly debunk the concept of “twin flame” or one-and-only soul mates, that another person is your other half, that you too, can live in permanent romantic bliss, just like some New Age promoters claim, if you follow their advice. There are books to be sold! Damn the truth!

The reality is that you have many soul mates, and that each connection is for a different reason. While some are better than others, our findings show that there isn’t a perfect person for you; no soul mate connection is perfect (not even close). In fact, most soul mates are for learning spiritual lessons.

Another major misconception about soul mates is the idea that they should last forever. Alas, this too is pure fiction. Very few are destined to last a lifetime. We realize that the thought of not being able to make a good relationship permanent is unsettling, but you are stronger than you realize; you don’t need a soul mate to be happy. Sure, in some cases you can stay together like roommates, but deep down you know when it’s time to move on.

Another common error in seeking a soul mate is the intent to find a “life partner,” an exclusive, lifetime partnership. Could you imagine approaching friendships like that?

Ronda and Michelle, both heterosexual, married, and entrepreneurs, meet at a party. They hit it off because they have so much in common. Over the next few months, they grow very close. Then, one day Michelle says to Ronda, “Ronda, I want you to commit to a ‘lifetime best friend’ contract with me. I don’t ever want to lose you as my best friend, and if you really value our friendship like I do, you’ll commit to it. Oh, and by the way, you can’t have any other close friends. Only acquaintances.” This type of fear based behavior is not rooted in authentic, unconditional love.

Is there a spiritual reason why everyone has many soul mates instead of just “the One”? We believe there is. Over the course of a lifetime, it’s impossible for one person to meet all your emotional, intellectual, and in many cases, sexual needs, and help you learn all your lessons. Yes, friends can meet some of those needs too, but sometimes fate and karma have something else in store for you.

Despite these truths, you will still find the New Age marketers and inspirational speakers promoting “find your (one and only) soul mate” programs. Why? Pandering to the instant gratification needs of lonely singles who don’t know a lot about soul mates is very profitable, as is pandering to escapism demands; escapism is commonly mistaken for spirituality today.

Ask the soul mate marketers about fate and karma and you’ll get a blank look or they’ll claim, “you can change your fate” with their advice. Really? If so, why don’t they keep a detailed record of all their clients who found their “soul mate,” and those who didn’t, instead of blaming the client for “not being inspired enough” when the find-your-soul-mate plan fails?

Ultimately, your personal karma dictates your love life. While it’s true you can still be happy by making the most of your karma, no amount of inspiration, soul mate seminars, or spells will alter your personal fate (which is the same exact thing as destiny, by the way).

If it’s your fate to go through a decade or more of not having a very good love life, that’s what you’ll have. But your attitude about it can make all the difference in the world. If it’s your destiny to never have a life-long, monogamous connection, and instead have multiple romantic connections, that’s what you’ll have. Again, your outlook is very important, as is dropping idealistic expectations.

It’s okay to have believed in the falsehood of the one and only, forever, perfect soul mate. You’re not alone. After all, everyone is practically programmed from birth due, in part, to fairy-tales and romantic movies. But now you can act on the truth, and you’ll have a much more rewarding and satisfying life in doing so.

Question About Bad Karma Answered–Childhood Diseases

Leave a reply

It’s perfectly understandable to be mystified as to why “bad” things happen to seemingly “innocent” people. We’ve found that it’s necessary to put aside conventional thinking in order to grasp what we believe to be the truth about karma and personal fate.

To further address this issue, we’ll answer a question we received recently: “There’s got to be something amiss with karma as we have it. How does someone ‘earn’ karma such as being depth charged for three straight days in a leaking U-Boat? So that elect group of men did stuff in other lives to cook up that experience?

“Or how’s about those deadly but incredibly rare diseases certain kids get. (I’ll) take (‘deserve’) that, for stepping on that bug!! Seems to me you shouldn’t get karma which is outside your spectrum of experience. Otherwise, as I contend, we are dealt crap for no reason in particular. Some are lucky.”

First, we don’t believe all horrific experiences are karmic in that they are the result of doing something negative in a past life.

However, we also believe that your soul (not your current personality) and the souls (not their current personalities either) of everyone involved choose to endure those horrific experiences to fulfill spiritual lessons and, or whatever other reasons such as helping others in the future who may find themselves in similar circumstances, or to help make sure it doesn’t happen to other people.

We believe it’s important to look at the big picture. When a group of guys gets trapped in a leaking U-boat, for example, it could be human error on their part, or the fault of the submarine manufacturer, or simply the consequence of being attacked by the enemy. In terms of being fated to die a terrible death at the bottom of the ocean trapped in a U-boat, the “how” of it isn’t as important as the why, from a spiritual perspective.

These men undoubtedly have people such as family who care about them and want them to be saved. This is a very important dynamic: who else is negatively (or positively) affected by the circumstances? Their loved ones, unfortunately, are fated to feel their loss, as our findings show.

What happens when you are forced to endure the loss of a loved one? In a spiritual sense, you might go through an initiation; you grow and move that much closer to the being you are fated to become. Sometimes you need to be launched in the right direction, and it’s often not pleasant. It may sound harsh, but we believe there is a spiritual reason for everything.

As for the guys trapped in the U-boat, there have been countless battles on this planet since the beginning of time and chances are this group of guys were together before, perhaps on the other side of the equation (if it was their bad karma), such as being part of the political leadership that hastily directed a naval force to do battle, resulting in a terrible defeat, wiping out the entire force.

Regarding infant mortality, our findings show that the souls of these little ones are often more advanced and know, before they are born, that it will be a short lifetime. Therefore, the experience is more for the people around them.

Again, consider the big picture. Our belief is that the soul is eternal, you’ve had many lifetimes, and that you take your overall health with you when you die. Live a life abusing alcohol, for example, and you could come back as an infant with liver disease. As mean as that may sound, this is what our findings show us; everything you do will come back to you, and not as a punishment. You can’t avoid this universal law.

Our free Direct Your Destiny download addresses karma and other, vital spiritual laws.

Freedom From Negative Karma – 10 Tips 

Leave a reply

Would you like to live a life that is void of problems related to money, love, family, or career?

Some New Age “gurus” claim to be able to clear karma. Our findings show that notion to be pure fantasy.

“Change or create your destiny,” some say, not understanding it doesn’t work like that.

Our empirical evidence indicates that almost everyone has good and bad karma, and you usually need to live through difficult experiences, which are often but not always karmic, in order to learn. This is the essence of the meaning of life, in our view.

Challenges and rewards in this life have been earned in previous lives or agreed to before incarnating. They don’t happen by chance and are not given out randomly by some higher power.

You can’t simply skip out on your difficult karma in this life. You can, however, create a future existence for yourself that has far fewer difficult, karmic circumstances. Even if you don’t believe in reincarnation or that you’ll live future lives, the following ten tips will also help improve your present life.

10 Ways to Reduce Your Future Negative Karma

1) Do what’s best for yourself, and also for the highest good of all involved, but avoid self-sacrifice, as well as excessive selfishness since both create bad karma.

2) Do the right thing in all situations, even if it means growing a pair and breaking with the crowd.

3) Always be honest with yourself and others. An occasional white lie to protect someone else doesn’t count.

4) Pay your dues and put in the time now so you can enjoy the fruits of your labor later.

5) Refrain from judging others just because they have a different skin color, sexual orientation, nationality, gender, belief, religion or are of a different class or income. It doesn’t matter what your religious, political or community leader told you about a certain group of people. Treating everyone with respect, no matter how different, does. If you can set aside the criticism, put yourself in another person’s position, attempt to understand and feel compassion for them, you are way ahead in the game of karma.

6) Forgive everyone, including yourself, for everything. This includes people who are or were close to you, and people you’ve never even met. Any grudges will add to your collection of karma.

7) Never retaliate if someone mistreats you. Yes, you should always stand up for and protect yourself, and self-defense is perfectly acceptable, but starting a battle will only cause you more problems in the future.

8) Take responsibility for all your circumstances and actions. If you look at the big picture, you really can’t blame anyone but yourself.

9) Do what you can to help others, even in seemingly insignificant ways. A kind word or gesture can make someone’s day or even change their life.

10) Be who you are. This includes sharing your talents, skills and interests with the world, and letting go of or powering through the fear and living your life as you feel instead of as expected. The world needs you more as you are than as you are “supposed” to be.

No one is perfect and you likely wouldn’t be here if you were. But striving to live your life without creating negative karma and living by the “golden rule,” treating others as you want to be treated, will create a better present and future life, perhaps even one filled with rewards.

New Age Case Study–You Can’t Avoid Fate And What to do Instead

Leave a reply

We offered our sympathy when a friend expressed anxiety about a very tough personal situation she was going through. Hearing about her situation reminded us about the futility of attempting to dodge personal fate and adversity.

She said, “Aside from the challenges in my childhood, or maybe because of them, I’ve always managed to power though the tough periods in life. But now I’m going through some really overwhelming things and I’m about at my breaking point, consumed with worry and fear.”

She went on to say, “My ex-husband is in trouble with the IRS, and he’s facing charges for being way behind in child support. Now he’s trying to take full custody of our children because he’s very angry that he had to go to court about child support. He probably won’t win, but he’s playing dirty and it’s costing me a lot of money and my good reputation. He wants to steal my children, move them to another state, and wants me to pay for it!”

“I must have been a very horrible person in a past lifetime because I can see no wisdom in all that’s been happening. Usually I can see the lesson or the wisdom in it. This time I’m truly blind.”

We mentioned that while fate is likely at play, it may also be a case of 1 + 1 = 2 (marrying someone who is not compatible and who has serious personality red flags, which were hidden until it was too late = problems).

We told her that she’s an honorable person now, that’s what matters most, and even if she did keep her kids from her ex in a past life, it’s best not to worry about that now because everyone has been incorrigible in past lives.

She also mentioned that she dabbled in some New Age manifestation techniques (spells) and, “Literally, it blew up in my face and made things worse. ‘Manifesting’ proved to be very dangerous in my case.”

“It’s a given this is a very tough time in your life,” we said, “but as you know, personal fate frequently isn’t logical when viewed from just the perspective of this lifetime. Maybe you’ve been led to believe, by the usual New Age suspects, that you wouldn’t have to endure such pain if you would just believe in the ‘secret’ and ‘manifest’ a better tomorrow, for example. Those philosophies don’t work in the real world when you are faced with impossible odds.”

“One benefit of this experience is that you can now more easily spot New Age bull. Well written New Age prose may feel wonderful and inspiring, like a sugar high, but so much of it is myth and pure escapism.”

“Hey, our apologies if that sounds harsh, but fate is fate, unalterable, and much in life isn’t so pleasant. It can’t be avoided by New Age snake-oil solutions, no matter how much they inspire you.”

“However, as you know by now, you can view life’s challenges in a way that makes them more bearable; accept what you can’t change and view them as a necessary part of life. Things aren’t going as you had planned, but a year from now you’ll be through with the bulk of it. Hang in there!”

Unfortunately, our friend, like many others, found that when life (i.e., personal fate) deals you an impossible hand, it makes popular New Age solutions like “manifest anything you want” appear frivolous and disingenuous.

While we appreciate inspiration rooted in reality and the idea of constantly striving toward your goals, it’s important to avoid getting caught up in spiritual hype because it can make you feel like a failure or worse.

Irreversible personal adversity, the really hard stuff in your life, is a reality for everyone at some point or another. The best approach is usually to deal with it head-on, compassionately and assertively. You are stronger than you realize. Accept what you can’t change, like others’ behavior, change what you can, and be grateful for the opportunity for growth because it’s largely the trials in life that make you the person you are destined to become.

spiritualgrowthnow.com

Spiritual Guidance, Tips, and Helpful Products

Category Archives: Karma

How to Get What You Deserve in Life

The Truth About Money and Karma

Spirituality, karma, and Cheating in Relationships — Pros and Cons

The Myth About Vegetarian Diet and Spirituality

Take This Quiz–How Do You Get to Heaven

What You Need to Know About Your Karma

The Real Truth About Soul Mates

Question About Bad Karma Answered–Childhood Diseases

Freedom From Negative Karma – 10 Tips

New Age Case Study–You Can’t Avoid Fate And What to do Instead