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Redefining How You Perceive New Love Interests

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If a woman is attracted to a man, it’s in her best interest to tell him. Many guys won’t flirt or make it clear that they are romantically interested in you until you make it obvious that you are interested too. Don’t over-analyze it, just go with the flow and realize that rejection, if it happens, is just part of the dating process.

It’s best to avoid thinking in all-or-nothing terms (the beginning of a wonderful relationship, or nothing). Just let it be what it’s meant to be. Most relationships, no matter how brief, offer valuable rewards and lessons.

Too many people expect a new love interest to be “the one” and avoid those who aren’t exactly all they demand in a partner (and too often, they personally don’t even meet those excessive demands). After a date or two they learn that the person does not fulfill every single item on their ideal romantic partner list, so they bail and start looking for the next one (or stay with that person until they find another so they don’t have to be alone).

It’s a good idea to remember to let each connection be what it’s meant to be and stop looking for perfection and expecting your date to be what he or she “should” be. Very few people you’ll meet will be even close to “the one” and you’ll only enjoy longer term, rewarding, hassle-free, compatible love relationships if you’ve earned them, in a karmic sense (as can be outlined through comprehensive numerological and astrological charting).

Being together in a fulfilling decades-long relationship is the fate, in our view, of some couples. Also, being married or partnered in a strictly monogamous relationship for 20, 40, or even 60 years is desired by many, but is it always for the highest good of all involved? No. To think that you can avoid complacency and growing apart, and to demand emotional, mental, romantic, and sexual fulfillment for decades with the same person (especially when two people marry young) is silly. A better approach is to drop all expectations upon entering a relationship. If it’s destined to be long-term, great. If not, be grateful for the experience, wish him or her well, and move on.

Rarely, if ever, do people know all the hidden, behind-closed-doors details about those dear, elderly couples who stay together for decades. Remember, you were blacklisted from society only a couple generations ago if you got divorced, so some couples stayed together, suffered, and played the game to avoid being ostracized. Plus, men and women had fixed, specific roles back then, so if they divorced, who would cook for him and who would do the yard work for her?

Today, many still hope to have a “lifetime” relationship, but an increasing number are acknowledging that divorce is reasonable for couples that grow apart. If handled maturely and fairly, divorce can be a good thing for both people (and if it’s unavoidably a more challenging situation, then, in our view, it was meant to be that way). Those who refuse to acknowledge this seem to have dependency problems, fear about being financially secure, have difficulty being alone, have a rough time with change, or perceive relationships too idealistically.

More and more people are accepting the notion that if one person is unhappy and wants out, then it’s pointless to stay together, and selfish of the other person if he demands she stay. You might say, “what about the kids?” Kids know if their parents are just going through the motions and doing so sets a bad example. Besides, a family doesn’t have to “break up” if the parents are both mature enough to remain friends, or at least civil and fair to each other.

By the way, we advocate legal agreements (however “unromantic” they may seem) between two adults before having any children, whether or not they get married, to protect the children and help minimize future disagreements and problems between their parents.

What you hope for in your romantic life might be destined, but if it’s not, as long as you react to fate with unconditional love and compassion, you’ll be on good ground.

Copyright © 2006 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

“Do I have bad relationship karma?”

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It’s rare that people have such good relationship karma that they truly (without any self-deception) have a solid, happy, fulfilling, compatible, monogamous, life-long relationship.

Yes, there are many couples who stay together for years and years, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is or has always been compatible or harmonious. It’s very common for couples to stay together and turn into roommates with wedding rings because they fear being alone, having less money, or for other reasons.

Love is forever, but most relationships are not. By this we mean that love is the glue that draws people together again and again throughout lifetimes. Couples usually meet again primarily, from a spiritual perspective, for learning lessons and personal growth instead of just for romance and companionship. When those lessons are fulfilled, it may be time to move on.

However, in our society, great emphasis is placed upon relationship longevity. A relationship or marriage is considered to have “failed” if it didn’t last a lifetime. This way of thinking not only sets everyone up for disappointment, but is unrealistic.

Nobody expects their first job out of high school or college to last forever, or that every friendship will never end, and dropping such expectations for love relationships is wise, in our opinion. Everyone changes and grows at different rates and has different lessons to learn. You can’t cast someone for a relationship theatrical production and expect them to fit comfortably into that role for a lifetime.

Sometimes people are meant to be single for a while for some reason other than it just being about bad relationship karma.

Your life circumstances are reflected in your numerological and astrological timing, which is different for everyone. Sometimes you’ll have rewarding love timing, meaning more fulfilling and compatible relationships, and sometimes you won’t, and some people have much more of it than others throughout their lives. If you don’t like the way things are going now, they’ll eventually change. If you are curious about when your love timing will get better, comprehensive numerology and astrology offer tremendous insight.

Our unique delineation and prediction work tell us that relationships, and how long they last, are destined. We’re referring to the energy between two people that makes them fascinated with one another and when the appeal (sexual and otherwise) is still there months and years later, as it was in the initial stages of the connection, not the type of relationship where two people know that it’s “over,” but stay together anyway.

Therefore, it’s best to try to let go of expectations for “permanence” when becoming involved in a relationship and just accept the situation for what and how long it is meant to be. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to work out problems (since working out problems is a major reason why you’re together in the first place), just that it’s better to go with the flow.

What about some “experts” telling you that you can have a life-long relationship and that all you have to do is keep it “new” and “fresh?” Yes, perhaps some of these techniques can help renew an already relatively strong connection, but they won’t revive something that’s dead or inspire what was never there in the first place.

It may be difficult, but try to be grateful for the time you’ve spent with compatible matches in the past, what you’ve learned from the more challenging relationships you’ve had, and perhaps most important, the benefits of alone time when you’re not in a relationship. Expressing gratitude has a magical way of helping to let go of the past and welcoming more positive experiences into the present.

Copyright © 2006 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Cheating Boyfriend’s Handwriting: True Personality is Revealed Through Handwriting Analysis

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How do you know if your lover is telling the truth?

Perhaps the only way to know for sure is to catch him or her with another lover.

Alternatively, while graphology (handwriting analysis) provides insight about potential current and future behavior, it won’t give you a definitive yes or no that he or she is cheating and being dishonest.

However, it’s possible to get an extremely clear idea of a person’s true personality, such as if they lack integrity. In order to do this, that person would need to write at least a 1/2-3/4 page of spontaneous writing about his or her current romantic situation. Indications such as insincerity and integrity issues showing up throughout the writing sample could give you a good idea about his or her actions.

Graphology is so informative because it reveals subconscious character, the real personality, not just the persona and the one seen when a person is at his or her best.

Relating to romantic relationships, a good handwriting analysis can tell you if a person fears commitment, avoids conflict, lacks a good sense of discernment (necessary to identify and understand personality and relationship issues), is emotionally mature or immature, is impulsive, fears intimacy, is restless, is self-conscious, lacks self-esteem and ego strength, has an excessive interest or disinterest in sex, fears success, fears trusting others, has a tendency to withdraw, and much more.

The topic of dishonest lovers brings up an important point about honesty in our society. Too many people think that if no one finds out that they lied, robbed, or cheated, they “got away with it.”

In reality, the eyes of truth are always watching, so everything you do and say creates karma and comes back to you. We’ve seen it played out repeatedly through past life regression, and we are convinced that there exists an automatic accountability system in this universe; everyone really does reap what they sow.

Copyright © 2006 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Love Life Affirmations to Assist With Being Unhappily Single or Suffering in a Marriage

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Although you can’t cheat fate, affirmations are helpful in dealing with life’s challenges.

Single and hating it? Say the following until you feel and mean it, and then say it some more: “I’m single for a reason, so I’ll accept and be grateful for things as they are and make the most of my situation.”

The saying “a watched pot doesn’t boil” is relative to the idea of waiting for a good relationship partner. Sometimes it seems like you’ll never find someone, yet that’s the time to do other things in your life such as prepare for when you have a partner. Once you get to the point of enjoying being single, attracting someone doesn’t seem like such an impossibility.

However, We’ve found a strong link between how a person feels about finding a partner and their love life timing as seen through comprehensive numerology and astrology. For example, during the times that are most challenging as a single person, the times that a person most feels alone, for instance, patterns reflect the least likely time that he or she will attract a good partner. It appears that fate dictates much of life no matter what approach is taken, but you can make the most of your life within those boundaries.

Suffering in a marriage but don’t know if you should end it or not because you are afraid of hurting your spouse? You may be hurting your spouse (and yourself) more by staying in the marriage and preventing him or her from being with someone who is more compatible

In conjunction with the below affirmation, meditation will help you to be more centered and allow you to act for the highest good of everyone involved.

“I communicate openly, honestly, and with love and compassion.”

Copyright © 2005 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Love & Relationships From a Spiritual Viewpoint – 3 Reasons People Get Into Bad Relationships

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It’s very common for people to be inexplicably drawn into bad relationships. Why does this happen?

Life on earth is all about personal lessons. While relationships may not always give us what we want, they always offer potential for spiritual growth. The main reason you are drawn to those who may not be good for you is karma; you have unfinished business or lessons to experience together.

We are drawn to people in this life in part because of our connections with them from past lives.

Another reason may be that you have come together for a higher purpose such as a child or work that will affect others. Sometimes we are attracted to people because of our current life programming, much of which is rooted in early life experiences. Of course, as much as we have researched past life regression and karma, we realize that even our childhood experiences are likely to be karmic.

Also, some compare their relationships with the ideal relationship, something most of us want. When this is done, it’s easy to find flaws.

Other reasons for being drawn to difficult relationships include the following: a test to let go, heal, and move on; fear of being alone; an important, unique lesson; and sometimes it’s a signal that the love is genuine, but it may not be sensible.

Needless to say, if your partner is detrimental to your physical, emotional, or mental well-being, it’s time to move on.

Despite challenges, if two people feel a relationship is worth continuing, and they still feel drawn to each other, they may have a soul contract to fulfill.

Copyright © 2004 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo