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Worried She Will Miss Her Destiny

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We received the following question recently:

“What happens if you don’t take action at the right time to manifest your destiny? Does this mean you will miss it? Or miss important events in your life? Will the opportunity present itself again at a later time?”

Based on our empirical research, we believe that at least 75% of the core events, circumstances, and conditions (rewarding and challenging) in your life are predestined. That means those things will transpire no matter what.

To make an analogy, if you miss an exit ramp and that opportunity is passed up, that exit was only part of the 25% that really wasn’t part of your core predetermination. If it, or rather the lessons related to it, were part of your path, something similar will present itself, in time.

Children and Fate

If you are meant to be a parent or mentor for a particular soul, it will happen even if you are unable or choose not to have your own children. The soul will find you through adoption, as a niece or nephew, or perhaps as a neighbor. The bond will usually be special from the beginning, and you’ll both likely recognize the significance.

Career and Fate

If you are meant to influence people through a certain type of work, it will happen even if you don’t consciously plan it. It’s likely you will feel passionate about the work, and sharing it with others will give you pleasure and be something that you just feel compelled to do. The specific form of the work may not be destined, but if it’s meant to be, you’ll somehow get the message, technique, or lesson out to the public.

Love Relationships and Fate

If you are meant to enter a serious relationship during a predestined window of time, you will. That is not to say the relationship is guaranteed to be all that you expect and desire it to be.

If you’re already involved, yet are meant to meet another soul mate, perhaps because your current relationship has expired even though you’re still going through the motions, a marriage certificate or commitment will not prevent destiny. You have free will to act responsibly and honestly, although we’ve witnessed time and time again the swift current of predetermination making a mockery of marriage vows.

If a person has very challenging love life karma, it could very well be their fate to endure excessive anxiety about it. Regrettably, those with challenging love life karma may strong-arm a partner into a “permanent” relationship, then when it falls apart, blame their partner. Enduring romantic satisfaction just isn’t part of their personal fate. However, generating gratitude and acceptance of what they can’t change (which tends to foster happiness) is always an option.

How You Know Which Path to Take

Whichever action feels most right, that you naturally take, especially that which you all but can’t help but take, is part of your fate. Even the apparent mistakes, especially those from which you learn the most, are destined.

The best approach is to let go (daily meditation helps a lot), follow your heart, and avoid fear-based decision-making.

As we mentioned, if you don’t take action at a point in your life to attempt to seize on an evident opportunity, and you likely will if it’s meant to be, fate will find you regardless, within the bounds of your unique personal destiny. By the way, contrary to popular New Age thought, these words all have the same meaning: fate, destiny, predestination, and predetermination.

Life is only meant to be fair related to the degree your karma is rewarding.

Also understand that you aren’t being punished if you have tough karma. Your soul (not your personality) has chosen it in this lifetime for whatever reason, which can be discovered, in part, through past life regression. Realizing the root reasons why often makes it easier to tolerate.

Copyright © 2011 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

How You Know He’s Your Soul Mate–5 Tips


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Although love life connections seldom offer pure romantic fantasy, they do offer fantastic opportunities for emotional and spiritual growth, inevitably drawing to the surface anything but bliss and your romantic expectations.

Almost everyone wants to be in love and be loved, but unfortunately, the soul mate concept is greatly misunderstood.

In the early stages of a relationship, you may find yourself wondering if you have finally found that cherished connection, your soul mate. Later, if things don’t go as planned, you may say, “What was I thinking?” Regrettably, this seems to happen to everyone, even repeatedly for many people, chiefly due to myths about soul mates and the illusions of love ingrained in the mind from early on.

Our findings show that you have many different kinds of soul mates; some are for more practical purposes, some are very challenging to help accelerate your spiritual growth, and fewer are mainly related to romantic reward.

Here’s how to know if you’ve met one of your more agreeable ones, or even the most rewarding of your life (one of the more pleasing qualities of the concept of fate), and if you’re ready for this type of relationship:

1. You’ve both sincerely sought self-understanding and to make the most of your life. You understand that the less you know yourself, the more you see the world as you are instead of how it really is. You take responsibility for your life and everything in it, and avoid blame and victim consciousness. You know that expecting someone to be your everything is unfair and immature, thus you truly respect your partner for who they are and avoid trying to change them.

2. You’re both at a place in your life where you’re comfortable with your time alone, not desperate to find a partner. You realize that nobody is going to save you but yourself, and you refuse to put that kind of pressure on anyone. Along with knowing the qualities you require your partner to possess, you are perfectly clear about what you are offering as well, and in relation to what you expect of your significant other, it’s fair.

3. Thankfully, your timing is right; both of you accept that there are times in life for everything, as symbolized through comprehensive astrology and numerology, and some phases are just not conducive to romantic relationships.

4. Compatibility is great between you. You recognize that the harder you have to work to make a relationship pleasant, the worse the overall compatibility. While you acknowledge that compatibility is somewhat based on what you make of it, after years of dating experience, you recognize that compatibility is much more something two people naturally have between themselves. It can’t be manipulated, it just is.

5. You both accept that true love is unconditional love. You both strive to limit conditional love demands, such as “I certainly hope she does this, because if she loved me she would…” A good measure of how much your relationship is based on unconditional love is if you forget about Valentine’s Day (or better yet, boycott it), for example, and your partner thinks nothing of it because he or she knows that your love is much deeper and much more unconditional than a commercial, contrived romantic holiday. The more you get caught up in romantic expectations, the more likely you are going to misunderstand the true essence of a romantic soul mate connection: love without attachments and demands.

A rewarding love relationship may be elusive to many, but once you find one of your superior soul mate connections, you probably won’t be fraught with indecision whether or not he or she is right for you.

Copyright © 2011 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Sidestep This Terrible New Age Marketing Trap: Find Your Soul Mate in 90 Days or Less


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You never want to be caught in the trap of thinking you can conjure up your “soul mate” in 90 days or less by following a New Age snake oil protocol.

Ready, set, go. You now have 90 days to find the love of your life. What a terrible approach to love. Just like square-dancing, you’ll twirl your way into the arms of the closest participant, but unlike that dance, you’ll have to remain together forever. And because you’re too focused on your agenda, too focused on casting a play, the fact that you two aren’t really compatible won’t be obvious until the illusion and excitement fade.

Being caught in this trap won’t help you find a compatible love relationship partner. In fact, it will make you miss your best matches.

You’re not alone if you’ve fallen for this ruse. You see that the promoters are best-selling authors, they’ve been on high-profile talk shows, and their “heart-centered” communications obscure (by design) the fact that, when examined more closely, this is an incredibly disingenuous approach to love.

How to Escape This Trap

The best way to avoid this trap is to acknowledge these 5 truths:

1. You can’t force love. It happens when it’s supposed to happen. Absolutely make yourself available, socialize, and be receptive to new romantic opportunities. Just be aware of the idea that if it’s not meant to be within 90 days, it’s not meant to be.

However, if you insist, you can use control and manipulation to make someone (e.g., a eunuch) do your bidding and create the illusion of a “soul mate” connection, as many “love life experts” do themselves. But that’s nothing to do with unconditional love and, in time, you’ll be very unhappy with this approach.

It’s apparent to us, when observing the love lives, and delineating the timing and, or karma of the “experts” who claim you can find your “soul mate” if you follow their advice, that most are either fooling themselves or intentionally living a lie in an attempt to impress their customers and promote the “90 days or less” myth.

2. Attempting to identify and mitigate any personality blocks that interfere with what you want for your love life so that you may rise to a new level of being is an admirable concept, but one that’s fraught with steep challenges. You need authentic methods (e.g., handwriting analysis) to identify subconscious blocks, not the “simply monitor your thoughts and identify all your issues” nonsense. Also, the programming and negative subconscious fears won’t go away overnight, and the subconscious defenses are very likely to stay with you forever. Therapy and hypnosis audios can help the healing process along.

3. Even if a person does manage to overcome a lot of their blocks, their overall karma and timing may reflect a terrible landscape for romantic affairs. Thus, they’re fated to endure an abysmal love life, at least for a time. Anyone who says you can simply bypass your love karma and have whatever you want (if you buy their book, of course) is either lying or simply lacks understanding of key spiritual tenets such as karma, predestination, and destiny (which is the same thing as fate, by the way).

4. The time isn’t right for a good reason. Look at it this way: you should be glad that you’re not attracting your best soul mate right now so that you can take care of the other parts of your life first, and prepare for your heart’s desire when the time is right (fated).

5. The more you focus on deepening your self-love, self-improvement, and the utter acceptance and enjoyment of your time alone, the more likely you are closer to finding the love of your life. The worst position you can be in is to be in a constant state of desperation toward finding your “other half.” Don’t forget, as Stephen says, “Two halves make a dysfunctional mess.” Try not to buy into the hype that you need to be partnered in order to be happy. Be strong–self love is the most authentic form of true love.

You can’t manifest a rewarding soul mate out of thin air if the time isn’t right for you, no matter what the “experts” say. The erroneous notion and dreadful trap is an artificial, commercial approach to love that could potentially ruin your life. Following our advice above will help you to avoid this trap and, eventually, experience satisfaction in your love life.

Copyright © 2011 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Zero Negative Karma Gained With These Sex and Relationship Oriented Matters

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There may have been a lot of things you got away with as a kid. But now you know better, we hope. If you’re like most people, you live your life aligned with the expectations of society, but is everything you abide by really for your own good?

Laws, regulations, rules, and more rules. But are they all legitimate from the standpoint of karma, freedom, and personal responsibility?

In your spiritual quest, maybe you’ve asked yourself, “What is acceptable behavior in a karmic sense? What won’t make me gain negative karma?”

Our findings through over 25 years of empirical research on the issue tell us that it’s mostly a matter of making sure you don’t intentionally hurt anyone, or yourself.

Morality is frequently subjective; be wary of conventional wisdom involving “right and wrong.” We believe you won’t ever be punished in the afterlife for many behaviors that are deemed iniquitous in today’s world.

Below we list seven things that are frowned upon in many societies, yet won’t make you incur any negative karma.

1. Breaking up with someone: in other words, dumping him or her. As long as you’re not trying to harm them in the process, you’re in the clear. If it’s over for you, the best thing you can do is leave peacefully. By the way, staying when it’s over for you and not freeing them so they can find someone more compatible could incur negative karma.

2. The act of divorce. Yes, you vowed to be with him or her forever, but feelings change, as do people. An ex who drags their feet and makes it very difficult, out of spite, for the one who wants to leave, however, will incur negative karma.

3. Prostitution between two consenting adults. What about a sex worker (or non sex worker) who has sex with 100s, even 1000s of people? Isn’t that an ethical offense? No, only if you’re under the mistaken impression that sex is wrong or dirty, and in terms of karma, it isn’t.

Sleeping with more than one person will result in zero negative karma being picked up, as long as you’re not ripping off or hurting anyone. In fact, due to the healing benefits of sex, you may even gain positive karma, especially if you’re good in bed. Sex between two consenting adults, no matter if one (or both) is getting paid, just as with matrimonial prostitution, is nobody’s business but theirs.

Conspicuous sanctimoniousness, arising from warped morality and corrupt religiosity, is the root source of many laws today relating to sex and intimate relationships. Interestingly, those who force their personal, subjective morality onto others, through laws that rob personal freedoms, incur negative karma.

4. Living together before marriage. Another religiously based forbidden act, yet zero negative karma related to it.

5. Having children out of wedlock. Absolutely no bad karma acquired here, as long as you don’t neglect your responsibilities.

6. Having an open relationship or marriage. Yes, even if you have 100 lovers at the same time, as long as you are honest about it and you haven’t made any false promises or intentionally hurt anyone, you are in the clear. Just act responsibly, including having safe sex.

7. Homosexuality. Interpret ancient religious texts as you choose, but consensual sex between two people of the same gender won’t incur negative karma, at all.

It’s best to avoid illegal conduct, yet you’ll spare yourself the guilt if you live your life in accordance with an understanding of the law of karma instead of the restrictive code of conduct forced on you by the morality squad.

Copyright © 2011 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Everyone is a Prostitute


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Disclaimer: The following article about prostitution is in no way meant to promote any kind of illegal activity and we recommend always living within the laws of society. This article is simply meant to encourage thought about the issues of sex, money, programming, judgment, unquestioned yet questionable traditions, sexual shame, self-esteem, and resolving personal fears and issues.

It’s said that prostitution is the oldest profession in the world. In our past life regression work, we’ve found that many people have had hundreds of lifetimes. If you perceive enough of your past lives, our findings suggest that eventually you’ll likely find at least one where you were on one side or the other, believe it or not, of a sex-for-money transaction.

Your hidden, subconscious, past life memories will influence how you feel about prostitution in this life. In addition, there is also sexual shame and societal programming that drives home the belief that sex outside of marriage is “bad.”

Condemnation of those who exchange money for sex is rampant.

You would think sex workers all have side jobs as executioners or thieves considering how much hatred and intolerance is directed at them.

Side note: In this article we are referring to adult prostitutes who choose to do this type of work. We in no way support pimps or anyone who forces another human-being to do something against their will. Exploitation of another isn’t what we’re referring to and we agree that the exploiters should be persecuted.

But let’s look at this more closely. A prostitute is normally an adult who provides a service in exchange for money to another consenting adult. There is no victim here, even when the prostitute is an addict or is in some other way damaging themselves (which can happen in any job), unless the client is being scammed (which can also happen in any financial transaction).

They’re both upfront about what they have to offer and they both get what they want. Some of them, especially the higher-level escorts, appear to love the trade and the money, but most of them seem to do it just for the money.

So here’s a question for you: How many times have you done something just for the money?

Did you ever keep a job you didn’t like just for the paycheck?

Have you ever refrained from telling a not-so-nice boss what you really thought and sacrificed your self-esteem in the process?

Did you ever not fire an impossible client because you wanted the money?

Have you ever used or been nice to someone just for what you received in return?

Have you done something that wasn’t “right” or proper in the eyes of society because there was a financial benefit for you?

Have you ever done something you didn’t want to do for the money?

Did you marry someone in part or mostly because they would give you financial security and, or food, lodging, services, etc., in exchange for sex and companionship?

Have you stayed in an unhappy marriage for the financial security?

Did you ever not stand up for what is right because it would have meant less money for you?

Have you ever not spoken your mind to a friend because of what that friend, aside from friendship, provides for you?

Most prostitutes make their living honestly by supplying a demand. They’re direct about how much they charge and what they provide. How many providers of legal goods and services have you encountered who were not honest about exactly what you would get or not get for the price?

Did you answer no to all of the questions above? Congratulations! You’re a saint among sinners. For the rest of us, almost everyone has prostituted themselves at one time or another.

The next time you find yourself judging someone for directly exchanging money for sex and, or looking “like a prostitute,” look in the mirror and ask yourself why it bothers you so much. Perhaps there’s something deeper about yourself, or your past lives, that you could finally embrace that would help you in your spiritual and emotional growth.

Copyright © 2011 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

6 Tips for Couples to Avoid Getting Swept Away by Romantic Illusion


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Most people strive to be part of a happy couple. Unfortunately, the result is often the opposite. Humans learn great lessons, often through difficult times, from love relationships. But if you take a spiritual approach and remember the following tips, you’ll be able to create more happiness and be better equipped to handle rough seas.

When you’re involved with someone, periodically take inventory of your relationship by asking yourself the following questions:

1) Are you allowing this person to be who they are instead of expecting them to be who you want? Do you have many rules for them? Step back and consider which of your expectations are realistic, and which are motivated by a need to control. For example, requiring them to pick up after themselves or be on time is fair. Not allowing them to hang out with whom they want is not. You’re their partner, not their mother or father, and you should want for them what makes them happy (within reason), even if it doesn’t always please you.

2) When was the last time you appreciated this person and felt gratitude for them being in your life? If it’s been awhile, meditate on all the reasons you found this person special in the first place. This can be an exercise of renewal, or of realizing that the bond may have been built on illusion. If the latter, don’t feel bad as it’s very common due to how our society approaches love and relationships. Now you know better.

3) Now may be a good time to reassess your connection and if necessary, take your relationship in a new direction. This is especially true if you and your partner became involved at a young age or have been together for more than a few years. While only the traditional relationship model gains our society’s stamp of approval there are many other forms that may work better for you, your partner, where you both are in life, and where you want to go.

As extreme as it may sound, some people, who already have a solid bond, find that an open relationship can actually improve and enhance their connection. Of course, responsible (safe-sex and honest) non-monogamy, as an alternative to the wildly popular lying, cheating, and unsafe sex approach, is only for those who are mature enough and have moved beyond the old fashioned partnership “ownership” mindset.

It’s important to note that you must both agree upon and want such an arrangement for it to be successful.

4) Have you let yourself go? If so, it’s time to change your diet, exercise regularly, and make the most of your appearance, no matter what your age. If you don’t, is it realistic and fair to expect them to remain physically attracted to only you? Self-improvement subliminal audios can help light a fire under your butt. Yes, you can still be sexy with the excess weight, but it’s bad for your health.

5) How is the energy connection between you two? Has it changed over time? Guilt, resentment, and other fears can dramatically impact a relationship. A forgiveness MP3 audio can help smooth the rough spots.

6) Has the passion between you two become a bit tepid? Good sex is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship. Turn up the volume with a sex meditation MP3 audio.

Let’s face it. Usually, when it’s over, it’s over. But if your relationship still has life in it, and you both have the desire, you may be surprised how a (seemingly) radical approach can revive and energize your connection.

Copyright © 2011 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

5 Tips for Singles to Avoid Getting Swept Away by Romantic Illusion


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Whether you are single, involved, or somewhere in-between, your love life has no doubt caused you to experience a whole gamut of emotions. It’s part of the human experience and one of the most important vehicles by which you learn your lessons. With a spiritual approach, you will be able to rise above the sorrow and make the most of your love life.

When single and dating, instead of allowing your hopes and dreams to rule, step back, take a breath, relax, and consider the following:

1) Pay attention to where you are at the moment. Are you feeling lonely or content? Needy or strong? Scattered or centered? When you feel complete on your own, you can more easily see and accept dating situations as they really are rather than what you expect or as others tell you they should be.

2) Notice where he or she is at the moment. Why do they want you in their life? What will you being in their life do for them? What are they really looking for? What is their agenda and is it good for both of you or just them? For example, if your potential love interest is very persistent about commitment or seems to be in a hurry to develop a relationship, this is usually (but not always) a bad sign; they are likely too focused on their interests. Read between the lines, find out more about their life before deciding if you want them in yours, and go by actions, not words.

3) Investigate the spiritual and unseen dynamics between you and this new person. We recommend using one or more of the following tools: comprehensive astrology and numerology, handwriting analysis, past life regression, tarot, and others. Remember though, whether you are seeking on your own or using the services of a professional, a surface approach with any of these practices will lead to incomplete, therefore misleading, results.

Even a short meditation, during which you ask for insight from God and, or your spiritual guides of the Light about the situation and person, can yield a simple yet telling clue.

Also, notice how you feel, your gut feeling, in their presence. Are you calm, peaceful, and uplifted, or fearful, guarded, and down? Trust your intuition and you’ll realize whether or not he or she is a good addition to your life, or someone who could drain you emotionally, spiritually, and, or financially. Don’t be afraid to walk away and remain single if it doesn’t feel right and, or if there are obvious red flags.

4) Remember that the fleeting bliss of romance can be different than the realities of the connection. Romance is wonderful, but too much emphasis on relationship traditions and romantic fairy-tales will cloud your perception and eventually lead to disappointment.

5) Ignore the New Age authors who claim you can find your “soul mate” if you buy their book. They’re pros at getting publicity, and their way of selling more books is to make wild promises and back them up with nothing but “I’ve done it, you can too” stories along with poetic prose and affected compassion. If it sounds too good to be true, be wary.

Our findings show us, clearly, that everyone has many soul mates, and that most soul mate relationships are not meant to be “forever.”

The all-p.r.-and-profit-who-cares-about-truths-while-showering-you-with-affected- empathy-and-cheer-leading crowd almost always fails to understand and, or mention that, due to predestination and karma, you can only meet a satisfying, mutually compatible, longer-term soul mate with whom you share mutual chemistry during select times in your life, and no amount of wishful thinking, spells, rituals, or the law of attraction will change that.

You can’t plant your garden in the dead of winter, and you won’t find a rewarding match during the winter of your love life, whenever that may be in your case (as outlined by comprehensive charting). To claim otherwise is irresponsible and often motivated by greed. You want natural love, not a contrived, commercial “soul mate.”

As harsh as it may sound, we’re merely relaying our findings from over 25 years of empirical research on the subject. This dose of reality about dating and love relationships may sound like a downer, but we’d rather have you be aware of the realities than have your head in the clouds and risk heartache or worse. If you’re careful with your love life and use your head and spiritual awareness instead of leading with only your heart, even with all it’s obstacles, you’ll come out on top.

Copyright © 2011 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

4 Soul Mate Revelations–Set Yourself Free With These Tips

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Most singles want to find a soul mate, but aside from the common romantic assumptions about this elusive magical bond, they generally don’t stop to think about the spiritual purpose of soul mates or the true meaning of the term.

Thanks to movies, TV, and romance novels, the perception of a soul mate has been distorted beyond it’s metaphysical definition. There is much suffering that could be avoided with more understanding and a change of viewpoint.

The following are four of the most common soul mate mistakes and what you can do to bypass them.

1) Assuming you only have one. After removing the fairy-tale element, a soul mate defined is simply a soul you knew in a previous incarnation. They could have been a sibling, parent, friend, or enemy; you may have 100s, or even 1000s of soul mates.

The term twin soul is often used to illustrate a special relationship, one that was especially created for you, or even your “other half.” As appealing as that may sound, unfortunately our findings invalidate this theory. Souls don’t pair off with only one ideal partner in the spiritual world.

But have hope. You do have connections that are much more compatible than others, and you will meet and enjoy each other when the time is right.

How do you know when you’ve met one of these magical connections? A feeling of knowing the person but not being able to place from where is common. As is instant like or dislike, assuming you are viewing the person objectively and not subjectively projecting onto them your dreams and hopes.

2) Soul mates are less about romantic happiness and more about destiny, and what’s fated may or may not compare favorably to your favorite love story. Each bond has a purpose, such as working on a project together, raising a child, working through karma, or simply enjoying each others’ company. You’ll experience a lot less stress and heartache if you learn to accept each relationship for what they are meant to be instead of only what you hope for.

3) Too young. Teens and 20-somethings are most likely to get drunk on the romantic, feel-good soul mate Kool-aid. Once reality hits, it’s often such a harsh contrast to what they expected that it’s easy to become cynical about future love life opportunities.

People convince themselves that they are mature enough to be happy with the person for the rest of their life, starting at a very young age. Unfortunately, this is usually not the case.

We’ve found through our empirical research that the more rewarding spiritual connections often show up later in life, sometimes after you’ve paid your dues, so to speak.

Instead of applauding “high school sweethearts,” parents and mentors would better serve kids in this area by helping them recognize that the Cinderella-type stories are only one possibility in the game of love, and by suggesting they not attempt to begin a life-long relationship until later in life.

4) “Together forever.” Most bonds are not meant to be life-long. It would be nice to have a compatible partner by your side for your entire lifetime, but since it doesn’t always work out like that, dropping expectations of such is key to satisfaction.

Of course, what would your love life be without a little fantasy and magic? It’s the spice of love and can lead to much happiness, if you keep it in check and remember to be realistic.

Copyright © 2010 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

3 Common But Terrible Reasons for Seeking or Remaining in a Relationship

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Almost everyone hopes and strives for a long-term relationship, but few are ever able to find and cement a mutually satisfying, compatible bond that lasts the rest of their lives. Those who place great importance on the fantasy of permanent, romantic bliss may see this as a tragedy, but we believe that’s an erroneous, dysfunctional perspective.Short-term relationships end for various reasons, including people changing and evolving or regressing at different rates over time, the shattering of illusions resulting in broken alliances, and “good” and “bad” love karma and personal timing: most connections, we have discovered in our work, have destined beginning and ending times.

There are many reasons couples stay together for longer periods of time, but we’ve found, generally, that there are four main categories of people who seek or remain in a longer-term relationship, which include three terrible reasons for doing so:

1) Singles seeking financial security or couples who can’t afford to break up yet. It’s common for couples to remain together because creating a second household would be too expensive. The divorce rate during the recent economic downturn has decreased, and reduced incomes is the number one reason.

All facades aside, financial security as the primary motivation for entering a relationship makes the connection a business relationship, not a love relationship. Adherents to the traditional American marriage model and those with a sense of entitlement deny it and express outrage when we point it out, but this sort of arrangement is essentially matrimonial prostitution. Please note, we believe how anyone chooses to live their love life is their business (not the government’s, and not society’s), unless they are being dishonest and, or using or abusing someone. We’re just calling it like we see it.

2) Those who are afraid of change, being single or alone, or are seeking happiness outside of themselves. These types will wait it out until they are forced to change, or they will end up feeling alone and isolated, even while in a relationship, because of their fear.

3) Those who feel a marriage or long-term relationship is a requirement to be a good parent. Unfortunately, a bad relationship will take the focus off a child and all will suffer in the process. Because of this, we recommend a child contract (which protects the child along with the primary caretaker) instead of a marriage contract.

4) And finally, most couples get married assuming they have what it takes to remain together, but then realize months or years later they lack the most important element, which happens to be metaphysically oriented: The good love karma of their predestined life circumstances that allows them to experience, for the most part, a harmonious, happy, long-term relationship. We estimate this is only about 15% of the population.

Is there something wrong with you if you don’t experience a rewarding longer-term or life-long relationship? It’s easy to think so if you get caught up in what you are “supposed to do” as a “normal” member of society.

Great importance is placed on life-long relationships. This is unfortunate since everyone has many soul mates and what is learned from a relationship is more important than its duration. Just because it ended doesn’t mean it “failed.”

If you aren’t involved in an ideal, longer-term relationship, don’t fret. Perceptions and expectations about the way love lives “should” be cause more misery than almost any other issue.

Instead of comparing yourself with those who seem to have what you’d like (remember, appearances can be very deceiving) and generating regret and despair, accept where you are, be grateful for all you have such as relationships with friends and family, learn to love yourself and occasional solitude, and refuse to buy into romantic fairytales.

Copyright © 2010 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo

Five Common Questions Asked of Psychics

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“Did he/she cheat?”If you have to ask a psychic this question, you may not be ready to have a real relationship, the connection you have with the person is not conducive to a compatible relationship, the person is not the monogamous type and, or the person is not deserving of your trust or time.

Some people need and, or want variety (statistics show it’s a lot more than some), or find that one person cannot meet all their needs and are better off not trying to be monogamous. It’s also a waste of energy to attempt to force these types to remain exclusive with you, which may be about as effective as them trying to force you to be happily non-monogamous.

Trying to make someone live within your relationship ideals is not unconditional love, and controlling behavior will incur negative karma. If you’ve been involved with someone who can’t or won’t be monogamous, you may want to ask yourself why you chose, on a subconscious level, to become involved with them. It just might be possible you’re naturally more non-monogamous.

As a reminder, safe-sex every time is a good idea if you have any doubts whatsoever about whether or not your partner is being monogamous.

Not much is ever mentioned about the spiritual side-effects of casual sex. If you’re spiritually sensitive, it’s possible to pick up others’ negative energy from your lover if he or she strays, especially if it’s done with negative emotions such as guilt or anger, which weakens a person’s spiritual defenses. For this reason, among others, some feel that demanding strict monogamy can be more harmful than helpful. But fear of negative energy is a weak excuse to try to force a lover into monogamy, since you can inadvertently pick up cosmic garbage in numerous ways and it’s relatively easy to cleanse and protect yourself.

Whether you are monogamous or not, it’s a good idea to protect yourself from dark energies. Meditation and visualizing yourself being cleansed and guarded with white Light are two methods. Avoiding drugs and excess alcohol will make you spiritually stronger. If you would like more help we recommend our Spiritual Detox recording.

“Does he/she really love me?”

Love means many different things to different people, and everyone expresses it differently. If you want someone to love you the way you love them, it may not be realistic. Consider why you are asking this question. If you have doubts about their sincerity, it may be time to move on. Otherwise, if you have a burning need to be someone’s “one and only” and you require them to voice their steadfast devotion to you on a regular basis, consider therapy.

“Is he/she my soul mate?”

He or she is most likely one of them, since everyone has many. If you’re looking for “The One” who you’ll be with “together forever,” we recommend a different approach. It’s okay to know what you want, but try to allow each dating situation to unfold naturally instead of trying to mold it into your fantasy or the ideal.

“When will he/she come back to me?”

When people ask if it’s a good idea to get back together with an ex or if the ex is coming back, 90% of the time the answer is “no.” If one or both of them are under age 30 or so, we’ve found it to be “no” 99% of the time.

When it’s over, it’s over, and if they left, usually they’ve already made up their mind and no amount of begging, manipulating, or hoping will change that. If you’re the one who left, you likely did so for good reasons. Remember those reasons and try to let go of any fears about being on your own again. Going back to someone who is not compatible is never a good idea.

If your lover left, you have a choice; resist and create more unhappiness for yourself, or accept it and let go. It won’t be easy at first, but once you accept that it’s over (completely, or at least for now) and move on, you will be in a position to consider if it’s really in your and their best interest to get back together. The answer is often “no.”

Depending on your outlook, this may or may not be good news for you: through our research we’ve found that everyone has many soul mates.

“We met online but haven’t met in-person yet. Is there a future for our relationship?”

We determine through our readings and analyses levels of compatibility and if a couple’s interaction will be shorter or longer-term, but if you’ve never actually met, it’s not really a relationship. If you’ve met more than a few online contestants in-person, you may have realized by now that it’s usually not a good idea to spend more than a couple weeks emailing or an hour or two talking on the phone with someone you’ve never met in person; if there is no face-to-face chemistry (which is very difficult to determine by email or phone), it will be awkward and you’ll feel like you only wasted time. Experienced online daters will likely understand why we say this.

Copyright © 2008 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo