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Two Common Questions Asked of Psychics

“When will I get married (or meet my life partner or soul mate)?”Many young adults ask us this question. Though we can determine through our readings and analyses when someone is likely to experience a compatible love connection, we always recommend to those not yet in their 30s to avoid spending too much energy looking for a serious relationship or marriage partner.

Many of them would be much better off going with the flow, dating, having fun, enjoying their youth, learning who they are beyond the social programming, and focusing on their careers so they have a life before they try to make a relationship “permanent” through a legally-binding agreement.

It would be nice if you met a compatible “life partner” early in life and remained happily together for the “rest of your life.” Unfortunately, most people’s soul schedule or personal fate doesn’t always include what they want, when they’d like to experience it, contrary to popular New Age opinion, no matter how much they “master the art of manifestation.”

Also, the concepts of lock-it-in-forever-happy-marriage and life partners are human, artificial constructs, not spiritually-based; our belief is that on a soul level they are viewed as unrealistic, and life-long relationships aren’t perceived as mandatory or even necessary in many cases when a soul is planning the next incarnation.

If you think about it, in most cases, a fulfilling, satisfying relationship with the same partner from your 20s until you die of old age is unrealistic since everyone changes (for better or worse) at different rates. Yes, some couples do “grow old together” if it’s destined to work out that way, but if it’s not, people don’t have to suffer for the rest of their lives. It’s not the 1800s any more, thankfully. People don’t need to rely entirely on a spouse to survive anymore. You now have the option of being independent and being with a partner because you want to, not just because you’re settling in order to survive.

As far as the notion of a “twin flame” soul mate goes, we’ve found through our long-term, empirical research that it’s as mythical as Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny; it’s an illusionary and subjective concept. Although some soul mates are better than others, after all the illusions fade away, there is no perfect match. Distorted, romantic idealism can be an innocuous escape, but too often it leads people astray, detracting from their earthly purposes and making life more complicated.

Instead of viewing marriage as an important destination and wondering when you’ll be swept off your feet, a better question to ask would be when are you most likely to meet someone who is compatible, or experience one of your more compatible relationships.

In addition to accepting the truth that not all relationships are meant to last a lifetime, we also recommend accepting that everyone has many soul mates. These two suggestions alone will save you much heartache and stress.

We’ve found that all relationships have destined starting and ending times (emotionally and romantically), and most are not meant to last “forever,” even if a couple chooses to stay together, essentially as roommates for whom the flame has long since extinguished, if it even existed at all. If you look at the big picture, a life-long relationship may seem ideal, and it may be part of some people’s path, but from a spiritual perspective, it isn’t as important as you may think.

If you would like to meet a compatible soul mate, make the most of yourself and have faith that you will meet the right people at the right time. Letting go of any resentment or regret from past relationships and accepting your status of being single will clear the way for a more compatible person, and remaining open to new possibilities instead of thinking in “all (‘The One,’ ‘Forever’) or nothing” terms will lead to more success in your love life. If you’re already involved with someone, letting go of expectations (that may or may not be related to the “twin flame” or other soul mate myths, or “acceptable” social standards) and accepting the person and situation as they are will lead to more harmony.

“Does he/she like me?” “Is he/she thinking about me?”

We can understand if you don’t want to make the first move out of fear of being embarrassed or rejected. But it’s really not your right to know what someone is thinking unless they tell or show you.

Meditate and ask for signs about whether or not it’s a good idea for you to make it clear you are interested or to contact the person. You have nothing to lose, unless you work together. In that case, it’s usually best to remain friends due to the possibility of the relationship issues causing problems at work.

The Overlooked Root of Sexual Orientation

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We recently heard a popular cable radio talk show host discuss the gay marriage ban in CA. The host often offers valuable insight about current events, but his views about sexual orientation are way off, in our opinion.

He was saying how important it was to vote Yes on Prop 8 (the bill passed on Tue., Nov. 4th, outlawing gay marriage in CA) because he said sexual orientation is not genetic (“because identical twins aren’t always both gay or straight”) but from environment, and how allowing gays to marry would damage our society.

Ah, pardon us Mr. radio show host, but we’re identical twins, our early environment was the same, yet there are innate differences between us, including sexual orientation. Our contrasts are clearly seen in the comprehensive numerology and astrology charts, by the way. And no, we didn’t look at the charts as teenagers and say “OK, you’ll be the gay one, Stephen, and I’ll be the straight one.”

What do we attribute our different sexual orientations to? Something that we’ve never heard discussed by the media in relation to the topic; past lives and karma. We thoroughly discuss these topics and more in our free download, Direct Your Destiny.

It is very clear to us, based on personal experience and our extensive empirical research, that sexual orientation, along with all the other unique characteristics of each person, begins with the soul, expresses itself through the personality, can be influenced (but is not determined completely by) genetics, and is also somewhat, to a lesser degree, influenced by environment. In other words, sexual orientation for each person is already determined before the soul enters the body.

The radio show host said environment is why many men in ancient Greece had young male lovers and if gay marriage was made legal today, it would encourage young kids to be gay. He said the percentage of gay people in Greece then vs. now was higher because of the acceptance of homosexuality.

Statistics (measured how, is unclear) show the percentage of gay people in our society now is about 10%. Really? Based on Stephen’s experience of being hit on by hundreds of married “straight” men in his teens and 20s, and the countless inquiries to his matchmaking service in the 1990s by married “straight” men seeking another man (Stephen’s service did not accept married members, by the way), he feels it’s more like 10% who are obvious or out, an additional 15% or more who have gay or bi tendencies that are not acted on or kept secret, and possibly many more who are gay or bi who are in denial.

If sexuality were only influenced by environment, which largely encourages children to be straight, there would be few gay people who are “out,” and even fewer who feel attracted to the same sex but don’t act on it. If sexual orientation were only a conscious choice, we doubt many would “choose” to be gay since it’s much easier and safer in this world to be heterosexual, especially in the many countries where sex between consenting adults of the same gender can be (and, amazingly, still is) penalized by long jail sentences, torture, and even death.

It is true that among twins, it’s fairly common for one twin to be gay and the other straight, but what the radio host and most people don’t understand (and we don’t blame them) is that people are more than just hunks of meat with a brain. Two twins can look and sound identical, but if you go deeper, through past life regression, handwriting analysis, and comprehensive astrology and numerology, for example, you will find vast differences. In other words, even identical twins have different souls and different fingerprints (despite having identical DNA), and their souls make them each unique.

Modern science ignores the influence of spirit, yet we find genetics trivial compared to non-physical considerations, such as the progression of the soul throughout lifetimes.

According to what the radio host said, he seems to be suggesting that if his early environment had been one of absolute tolerance toward gays, he may in fact be gay today. Perhaps he fought hard against feelings towards the same sex and “chose” to be straight. If he insists that sexuality is a “choice,” then perhaps he could tell us when he decided to be straight.

Some suggest that it would be bad if more people were (openly) gay. That shows a high level of intolerance, clearly. These types typically say they “have no problem with gays,” but if that were true, they shouldn’t have a problem with gay people getting married.

Those who voted Yes on Prop. 8 (to ban gay marriage), whether because of their “religion” or other reasons, may be afraid that a lot of people would choose to be gay, overthrowing society as we know it. This might give new meaning to professional sports heroes slapping each other on the ass. Maybe they’re right–it could be a threat to national security if there were no heterosexuals to protect our country (joke).

Life is too precious to hate people you don’t even know. Let’s update our views about sexual orientation, shall we? It’s “orientation,” not “preference.” How many gays have you met who are really straight but just “prefer” to be gay? Probably not nearly as many people who are really gay who prefer to be straight; perhaps this is the reason the word “preference” is so often tossed around today in connection with sexuality.

If gay marriage were legal and everyone was totally accepting, even encouraging to others to express their true sexuality, yes, more people would eventually be more comfortable acting on their gay or bi tendencies. But why would that be a bad thing? It wouldn’t, except to those who feel being gay is “wrong.” More acceptance of sexual orientation would also eventually help to eliminate the problem of gay men or women pretending to be straight (or being in denial of their true orientation), getting married as a cover, and then sneaking around behind their partner’s back, potentially putting them at risk for STDS. It would also decrease the number of teen suicides.

If there was suddenly much more acceptance of gays and lesbians, it’s doubtful that there would be a mass exodus of people turning gay and moving to West Hollywood, unless they were already closeted. Also, it’s doubtful that young children would be influenced much, since sexual orientation isn’t just about sex, but also attraction to a gender, which can start at a very young age. People tend to eventually do what they really feel anyway; more acceptance of gays would not “turn” people gay or bi who are not gay or bi already.

Complete tolerance for everyone and their orientation isn’t only “the right thing to do,” it’s a sure way to avoid negative karma and future life conflicts involving the issue.

Sex Not Spiritual?

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Some people are surprised when they discover that along with our other spiritual products and services, we offer hypnosis and subliminal audios for better sex. Their idea of a spiritual lifestyle may mirror that of modern-day monks, nuns, and priests, so they can’t fathom how sex would fit into the picture. A spiritual lifestyle to them does not, and should not, include sex.

For others, sex is an important part of their spirituality. For example, they may use tantric sex to connect with their partner on levels that go beyond just the physical. Personally, we feel that if you’re incarnated on this planet, you may as well enjoy it to the fullest, and that includes (responsible, honest, and safe) sexual expression.

But it’s not surprising many feel that sex is not spiritual or feel conscious or subconscious shame, guilt, or fear associated with it when you consider the influence of many organized religions’ doctrine.

Traditional religious leaders have a long history of preaching that sex, outside of marriage, is “bad,” “sinful” or “wrong.” These beliefs originate from puritanical times when sex was not supposed to be enjoyed, even within a marriage.

Through past life regression research, we’ve found present-day negative unconscious feelings and emotions about sex can sometimes result from living one or more lifetimes of being punished for sex or otherwise having a unfortunate experience with it.

A 21 year-old acquaintance of ours, whom we’ll call “Sam,” reflects this dynamic. He told us recently that he doesn’t want to have sex until he gets married because he feels it’s dangerous and he’d rather wait for the love of his life. While this might be an admirable position to some, we refrained from telling him the love of one’s life sometimes doesn’t arrive until much later in life, and that he may be denying himself some potentially invaluable experiences.

Sam was raised by very religious parents and his outlook on sex has certainly been influenced by their fear-based views. However, he seems to feel an unusual amount of fear about casual sex. While meditating, we spontaneously perceived what may have been Sam’s most recent past life in which he, or the body his soul was incarnated into at the time, died in 1984 of AIDS contracted through promiscuous sex. Because of that, it’s certainly understandable why Sam would have the intense subconscious drive to want to be (more) careful (this time).

Unfortunately, we also perceive Sam as someone who would be much more comfortable with sexual variety. He’ll try to tame that desire and will likely succeed temporarily, but as we’ve seen happen before many, many times with others in similar situations, eventually the repression may result in unhealthy, even destructive expression.

Because of this, whether or not abstinence is truly spiritual, we believe, is debatable.

Others seem to have a very free-spirited attitude about sex. They don’t understand why a bare breast, a thong at the beach, or a sexually open relationship, for example, causes so much commotion. It’s very possible that these non-conformists experienced lifetimes in past cultures where sex or public nudity was not considered “bad” or “dirty” but simply natural, fun, creative, and a major part of their happy lives.

What about karma, fate, free will, and sex, you ask? Based on our empirical research, one’s sexuality and what is largely experienced in relation to it does appear to be karmic and predestined. But since you also have free will in conjunction with your personal fate, sex is as spiritual as you choose it to be. As long as you are acting responsibly, safely, and honestly, and you are not hurting yourself or anyone else in the process, you are not creating any negative karma.

Afraid to be Alone Part II

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Should you stay or should you go, and how should you do it? Will you be alone for the rest of your life if you leave? Whether or not to leave an unhappy relationship and strike out alone can be an agonizing decision for many.

Viewing it from a different perspective will help you. Below we outline a couple case studies and show that there are alternative options to conventional wisdom.

Case study problem #1:

“Alan and I agreed to be committed to each other even though I felt like he may have been more interested in financial security (I make well over six figures and Alan is a struggling musician). He admitted that he cheated once (but I suspect more). But he’s grown up a lot since then and promises me that he’s changed. I think we have a chance together, especially since our physical/sexual connection is so incredible. I think he may be “the one” and worry that if I don’t stay with him, I may miss the opportunity to ever be loved again.”

Traditional thinking and solution:

Believe his pleas about how he’s grown up (never mind that his nature dictates that he needs variety and that he’ll either stray again or be unhappy being strictly monogamous), bite the bullet and get married. After all, everyone knows that marriage improves all relationships and secures happiness; this is why so many people rush into this legally binding situation.

Alternative Suggestion:

You’re considering a commitment with a man who cheated on you and who may be more interested in your money than you? Based on Alan’s birth data, what we intuit, and what you’ve told us, he’s not the monogamous type or someone you’ll be able to trust or depend on. If you don’t make a commitment with him, are you missing the opportunity to ever be loved again? We doubt it, but more importantly, you need to ask yourself if being with him is worth the misery he will likely cause you both.

Alternative Suggestion:

If the physical/sexual connection is mind-blowing, but he isn’t the monogamous type, you do have other options besides all (marriage and its expectations) or nothing (dumping him). Perhaps he’s meant to be in your life in a different capacity, such as a “friend with benefits” or as a secondary partner. This arrangement can work if both partners are mature and honest and have no expectations of it leading to anything more.

However, in these situations (and all relationships, for that matter), never assume anyone is being strictly monogamous or practicing safe sex with other partners. Always practice safe sex and use condoms. That may sound untrusting or paranoid to some, but we’ve known too many people who’ve contracted STDs, including HIV, from partners, even those in relationships that they assumed were monogamous. Don’t be foolish. Play safe 100% of the time. Some people have good intentions and want to be honest and keep their promises, but their nature contradicts that; they simply cannot. Their urges and agendas and excuses and justifications are more important to them.

Case study problem #2:

“I have been in a long-term relationship for 15 years, since I was 26. I don’t feel my other half is my true soul mate. However, I’m not sure that I’ll ever find my true soul mate, so I remain with my boyfriend. He’s a great guy, but when people talk of true love, I know this just isn’t it. Our sex life is pretty much non-existent, and has been for the last 9 years. I’m worried that if I end my relationship I’m too old to find someone else, so I just stay where I am because I don’t want to grow old alone…”

Traditional thinking and solution:

You’re past your prime. Just make the most of your current situation.

Alternative Suggestion:

You two are essentially roommates who masquerade as a couple. Though it’s true that everyone has many soul mates, he doesn’t seem to be one of your more compatible ones. You’re not too old to find someone else or to enjoy being single. In fact, we’ve known many people who look their best, even very sexy, in their 40s, 50s, 60s and beyond, especially if they exercise often (including yoga), meditate for stress relief and awareness, maintain diets that work for them, such as whole and raw foods, avoid drugs and excess alcohol, and do internal cleansing. If you make time to make the most of yourself, you will reap the rewards. In addition, personal timing (as discerned through comprehensive numerology and astrology), not age, dictates when you’ll meet a compatible match.

As far as growing old alone goes, having a partner now is no guarantee that he or she will be there later in life, or that they will be a remedy for your loneliness. Alternatively, invest time in quality friends and family, volunteer, turn off the TV, and join groups that interest you, and, or get a pet.

Everyone is, for the most part, programmed from birth to believe they need to find the one perfect person to meet all of their needs for the rest of their lives. Remarkably, this is often expected by people in their 20s, when they are too young to really know themselves. This is impossible, but many still strive for it and then think they or the relationship “failed” if their expectations aren’t met. Stop looking outside yourself for love or for a soul mate to fulfill your every need for the rest of your life. The sooner you can do that, the happier you’ll be.

If you are alone now or at times in-between relationships, learn to love being alone; this is your time to concentrate on other areas of life and help others with what you’ve learned. Make a difference in someone’s life and, or the world.

Finally, what is the root cause of your fear of being alone? Where did it all start? It’s not just because you don’t like being alone. It goes much deeper than that. Find out through regular meditation and, or past life regression. Regular meditation will also help you connect with your higher-self and God, and with this awareness, it will be easier to let go of the unhealthy fear of solitude. Remember, it’s only a fear, one that you have control over if you choose.

Afraid to be Alone

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We receive many inquiries from people agonizing over the choice between staying in an unhappy, unsatisfying relationship or leaving and potentially being alone. The majority of them are more worried about being alone for the rest of their lives and because of this, remain stuck in their relationships.

There are other options, as we outline below, especially if you are willing to view your situation from a more spiritual perspective.

Case study problem #1:

“When I was 25 I met the love of my life, John, yet he broke up with me after 2 years. We remained best friends and the affair never really ended. I always compared everyone to him, and he always came back to me when in trouble. Eventually, we got back together. I’ve caught him cheating four times in the last three years and I don’t know if I can take it again, but the idea of being on my own seems worse to me….”

Traditional thinking and solution:

Turn a blind eye to your partner’s infidelities and be grateful you have someone in your life. You’ve invested all this time together and it would be a shame to throw it all away.

Alternative Suggestion:

You are allowing him to continue to disrespect you because you’re afraid to be alone. Though your situation is karmic, it’s in your best interest to use your free will to react compassionately. Take back your power, be strong, and bow out. You will be free to work on yourself and eventually meet someone who is more respectful and compatible.

How much time you’ve invested with each other is never a good reason to stay together, especially if he’s betraying your trust. Look at it this way, the spiritual (most important) reasons for relationships are about learning, understanding, and growth; how long they last is irrelevant. Many people place great importance on the length of a relationship, but if it’s done it’s done, even if a couple stays together. Besides, as soon as he betrayed your trust, the relationship died as you knew it. As far as him being the love of your life, you don’t know that for sure until the end of your life.

Alternative Suggestion:

If you can’t live without him (and you probably can), redefine the relationship and tell him his actions have shown you that he cannot or will not be monogamous. Since the problem with cheating is ultimately more about dishonesty than sex (other than insecurity about the loss of a partner or fear of disease), your relationship may work, in a different form, if he is willing to be brutally honest when he feels like straying, and does so safely and responsibly. But you would need to be very adult-like in how you handle his confessions, and it’s likely that he would not be able to handle you dating other people. Both of you seeing this all from a spiritual perspective (everyone has many soul mates, no one owns anyone, sex is not love and doesn’t have to be exclusive to traditional love relationships, sex purely for the enjoyment of sex between two consenting adults is perfectly acceptable, etc.) would also help a lot.

Case study problem #2:

“I didn’t automatically ‘click’ with my boyfriend Jason, yet we shared a world view, and we ended up moving in together and building a life. He’s the most loving and genuine man I’ve ever met, yet I often think about the bond I had with a previous lover that doesn’t seem to be there with Jason. I’ve considered ending it, but I don’t want to be alone and I worry that perhaps I’m asking for too much, and running after a dream that isn’t real…”

Traditional thinking and solution:

You can’t have everything in a relationship, and you should feel lucky that you’ve found a good person to be with.

Alternative Suggestion:

Though it’s good to realize that “Prince Charming” or the perfect partner does not exist, your attraction to Jason is based on your logical mind reasoning about why you should like him, should be attracted to him, and should feel that connection with him.

But as you know, you don’t feel that connection with him. It’s either there, or it isn’t, and between you two, it’s not. This is not your fault or his, it just is what is. Perhaps you cite a fear of hurting his feelings as the reason why you don’t break up with him. After all, he is such a nice guy.

Think of your situation this way: you are being selfish. Breaking up with him would be doing him a favor; he would be available for someone more compatible with whom he would share that special connection that you two don’t have. The comprehensive numerology and astrology natal and timing charts, along with psychic insight, tell us you both are better off as friends.

If you are unhappily involved or single and fear being alone it’s within your power and your free will to learn to love your time alone. But first you must confront the fear of solitude and discover its origins. Even if past lives are just metaphors in your subconscious mind, regression therapy can help, as can meditation.

Relationships: How to Choose More Carefully and Avoid the Bad Apples

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Many people spend so much time and energy on their love lives, striving for the ideal relationship. While self-love is the only true love in our view, it’s understandable why the feeling of being loved and accepted by another is so desirable.

Along the path to finding compatible love, everyone has their share of adverse relationship experiences and some people are fated to have more than others. Although challenging love connections seem to only complicate your life, in time it’s easier to see how they’ve helped you learn and grow.

Sometimes the best path seems to be to go forward with a challenging relationship even if you are aware ahead of time that it could be problematic. Other times a relationship may seem wonderful at first, but then you realize you didn’t know the person (or yourself) as well as you thought you did, you end up bringing out the worst in each other, or you simply grow apart.

Our research and work firmly indicate “negative” relationship situations are karmic. Even so, ultimately you do have free will to react to the situations and conditions in your life, and the more in tune with yourself you are, the easier it will be to choose and navigate your relationships with compassion and understanding.

Self-Exploration, and Relationship Traditions

If you avoid self-exploration and solitude at all costs, and you place great importance on relationship traditions, it will be much more difficult for you to avoid the bad apples and emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and, or psychically draining relationships. A fear of being alone and an avoidance of self-analysis will cause you to overlook obvious signs and become involved with or remain with people who, all things considered, work against you.

As discerned through astrological and numerological comprehensive charting methods, handwriting analysis, and psychic insight, some people are born much more relationship oriented, with scarce emotional independence (or are even prone to codependence). Hence, situations involving unhealthy relationships decisively manifest as part of their predestined path. Though even in these cases, they have the option of using free will to make the most of it all.

If you fit into this category, one possible remedy to help limit toxic relationships is having goals that supersede “The One” ideal. School, career, your children, fitness, volunteering, hobbies, or other such things on which to focus your time and energy could help you make better decisions in your love life by helping you to detach and view it all from a higher perspective. At the same time, we’ve found that people will do as they are fated to do time and time again, but at least awareness can assuage dilemmas and you can work within your destined framework for more desirable effects.

Knowing Thyself and Meditation

If you are one of the few who know themselves very well on levels other than conscious understanding, or meditate regularly to the point of consistently experiencing divine insights, you’ll be able to perceive quite a bit about potential matches before getting involved with them. This will also give you a head start in how you approach and respond to people and situations in your life, allowing you to use your free will more constructively.

For example, after meeting a new relationship, friendship, or employment possibility, you’ll be able to more easily pause, step back, contemplate the situation, and consider if it’s worth the time and energy and if it would be supportive of your goals. But maybe you’re also wise enough to know that one’s heart can interfere with decision-making.

Metaphysical Tools, Advisers, and Eremites

If you consult with a metaphysical adviser or even actively apply tools such as astrology, numerology, handwriting analysis, or tarot, or work with dream analysis, for example, you may know quite a bit about potential matches even before you meet them. Higher than average psychic abilities can also allow you to perceive the “good” and “bad,” or at least what you need to know, about people and situations ahead of time. Unfortunately, this may often cause you to be forced to decide between the complexities of the connection and being alone, and remaining single may seem like the better choice more often than not.

This dynamic could partially explain why “wise women,” “old sages,” and other mystically inclined individuals are often depicted as living alone, such as in the forest or on a mountain top; they see beyond the surface, detect the spiritual reasons at the start, and opting out might seem more appealing. Of course, they may also be alone because they enjoy it, their collective natal and timing indications symbolically choose this for them, they are simply taking a break between relationships, or they have so many friends (guides, spirits, etc.) in the unseen dimensions that taking on ones in the here and now may seem unnecessary or pose too much of a burden.

There will always be “good” and “bad” apples in the barrel of your love life and in the rest of your life. Expanding your awareness will help guide you to make smarter choices, and when the only option is a connection that lacks a reasonable level of compatibility, use your free will to accept where you are and navigate to a better place. Although due to your personal fate, you may not be able to manifest more desirable circumstances right away, but eventually you’ll be able to make the best of even the most trying times.

The 7 Most Disappointing, Yet Empowering Love Life Realities

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No one, including us, enjoys being reminded of some of the love life realities that we’ve deduced through our work since 1992, especially if they place great emphasis on romantic traditions.

Many have told us that they think we’re too fatalistic in our views and too straightforward in how we present them. Though it may be unsettling at first, objectively considering and perhaps eventually accepting ideas such as those below can improve your life, increase your peace of mind, and empower you.

1) Love relationships are wonderful in that they usually offer delightful romance, companionship, and other benefits. However, they are, from a spiritual perspective, primarily for personal growth and achieving various earthly missions such as bringing children into the world, important goals, financial obligations, and work that will influence others in significant ways.

2) Relationships may not always give you (your personality) what you want, but they always offer potential for spiritual growth. Fortunately, you have free will to make the most of your situations. Creative visualization (e.g., conscious creation) can help to bridge the gap to the experiences you desire with a lover, but don’t get down on yourself when you eventually find that it only works in conjunction with fated love life circumstances and it won’t totally over-ride rough karmic conditions. Why must you face your unique karmic conditions (good and bad)? Because your soul wants you to.

3) Sometimes you are attracted to certain people because of your current life programming, much of which is rooted in early life experiences. From a spiritual perspective though, much of life, even your childhood experiences, is karmic.

4) Past life karma is the main reason you are sometimes drawn to those who may seem to have more of a negative than positive influence in your life; you have unfinished business or lessons to experience together. Additionally, our findings indicate that the subconscious mind’s complexities are firmly linked to past incarnations, not only this lifetime. Your soul’s journey and the rewarding and challenging earned karma from multitudes of lifetimes has at least the same or greater symbolic impact than early life and societal programming and also lays the groundwork for it.

5) Alternatively, a romantic connection could be for other karmic reasons, such as a test to let go, heal, and move on, and sometimes it’s mostly about tangible or intangible rewards.

6) It’s important to value each relationship for its uniqueness and avoid falling into the trap of comparing love connections to the ideal relationship (those portrayed in Hollywood movies and romance novels), which only serves to foster disappointment and unhappiness.

7) A good relationship bond is either there or it isn’t and is based upon your past life karma with each other, level of self-awareness, personal cyclical timing, and degree of challenging or rewarding individual love life karma. However, even the roughest connection has its enjoyable moments. Additionally, subconscious fears and defenses play heavily into the dynamics of all relationships. We’ve found handwriting analysis to be the most accurate form of subconscious personality analysis.

Also note that the subconscious mind dominates the conscious mind, is clever beyond your conscious awareness, and many subconscious fears and defenses are embedded in your essence after being formed over lifetimes and there are no simple solutions to totally remove them. Even managing to effectively identify them in the first place is difficult. Simply “watching your thinking” and reciting a few affirmations over the course of a few weeks or even months in an attempt to rid yourself of the trouble spots of your unconscious mind will have little effect due to them being so firmly rooted in your mind.

Fortunately, you can work to identify, adjust to, and even modify subconscious blocks in time, such as through the methods we promote.

17 Dating Tips for Mystics

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Meeting a compatible person for a relationship can seem out of reach at times for singles in the dating scene. Dating can be difficult, as anyone will tell you who has experienced online dating disasters or grueling blind dates set up by well-meaning friends.

For those who are more spiritually sensitive than average or actively involved in personal growth and the self-realization process (e.g., prefer to search deeply into the meaning of life), dating can be even more challenging due to the increased tendency to see things as they are, rather than as they would like them to be. The following perspectives about dating while on a spiritual path can help make dating more fun and productive.

1) It’s easy to get caught up in hopes and expectations when dating, but the best policy is to drop them. Knowing what works for you, yet at the same time surrendering and accepting your situation as it is and accepting any person you meet as they are will make dating far more pleasant. For example, you can accept that people who avoid inner searching and self-help methods are are going to view you as an extraterrestrial when you tell them about the visions you see during meditation. Luckily, you have free will to edit your conversations and be more selective about who you date.

2) Try not to feel insulted when you read someone’s personal ad who responded to yours and intuitively conclude they are lying about some of their profile statistics or that their pictures are probably ten years old. Calling them on it will only cause conflict, so just accept that the type of person who misrepresents themselves in a personal ad isn’t going to acknowledge the hassles it creates and might very well behave this way in other parts of their life.

3) During the first phone conversation with a new dating possibility, don’t take it personally when they ask you 100 interview questions to see if you qualify for the part in the relationship play they are casting. Unlike you, they’re not making an attempt to intuitively sense the compatibility and are likely trying to fit you into what they want rather than accepting you as you are.

4) During the first face-to-face meeting, try not to share the clear, past life visions you see of the person as a cruel, Roman slave-driver long ago. They couldn’t possibly understand that you really did know them in a previous lifetime or that one of the reasons you could not bring yourself to date them in this one is because you were one of their badly treated slaves.

5) Likewise, until you know they are open to the possibility of reincarnation and past lives, try to refrain, at least during the first few dates, from informing them that you two were passionate lovers in a past life.

This kind of news, while exciting for you, may seem too weird to them. The same goes for the information about your lifetime as a booze smuggler, pickpocket, or opium addict. As amusing as the stories could be, they just wouldn’t understand.

6) When they are telling you about how their previous relationships ended because of how horrible their partners were, but you see right through their version of the truth and sense the real story–how it’s because this person couldn’t be honest or monogamous to save their life–keep it to yourself. Vocalizing what you sense would only spark discord.

7) When this person (from number 6 above) suddenly tells you, on the first date, that you’re the only person they want and that they’d “never” cheat on you, take it with a grain of salt. They mean well, but don’t know themselves well enough to know better. If they did, they would be honest with themselves and be upfront about how they prefer sexual variety.

8) Go easy on them. Due to your heightened awareness, in part, from the all the work you’ve done on yourself, you may understand them better than they understand themselves, so it may be like relating to a child at times.

9) Try not to laugh when your date, who you strongly suspect (after getting to know them somewhat) would lie, steal, or cheat to get what they want, says, “I believe in karma.” They don’t yet understand that everything you do, even if you don’t get caught, comes back to you.

10) As the date (from number 9 above) starts digging for information about your net worth or how much money you make (with dollar signs sparkling in their eyes), just smile and say, “the Universe is my checkbook.” When it comes time to pay for your drinks, resist the urge to skip out the back door and leave them with the check and remind yourself that this would create bad karma and tie you to someone you’d rather avoid.

11) Luckily, you can save time by using meditation and intuition to screen potential dates. Don’t cancel a date just because you sense they may not be the love of your life, but if you get several clues that the person isn’t ready to date, for example, don’t be afraid to cancel. Just be sure to be considerate and let them know you’re canceling or that too will create negative karma.

12) It may be better to wait for a more appropriate time to share how you psychically perceived them to be, within 5 minutes of meeting on the first date, a very expressive and generous lover. While some people would be flattered, many would not like feeling so transparent to a stranger.

13) Be grateful when someone dumps you. They probably weren’t right for you anyway and you are now free to meet someone who doesn’t think you’re crazy because you trust your intuition.

14) Your heightened awareness may seem like a curse at times, like when you wake up one morning and suddenly, intuitively, and mysteriously know the fated outcome of a relationship after only two dates. Just be grateful for it, as it can save a lot of time and heartbreak.

15) When you crave a relationship and feel a great sense of lack without one, remind yourself that dating and love relationships are an addiction for many and self-actualization methods, such as meditation, can be a cure.

16) Keep in mind that the more personal growth work you do on yourself, the fewer people there will be who are compatible. The payoff for becoming more self-actualized can be more enjoyment of being single, and a more fulfilling and less taxing relationship when you do meet a compatible person.

17) When you do meet someone with whom you share compatibility and chemistry, and your new significant other asks you what you see for your future together, it may be best to simply remind them (and yourself) to just enjoy the moment rather than worrying about whether or not the relationship will last as long as desired.

Lost Love

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Losing a loved one is a heart wrenching experience to say the least.

Although finding the strength to move on with one’s life after such an experience takes time, it can be done.

Gratitude is wonderful for helping to overcome grief. Be grateful for the love you had, the experiences you shared, what you currently have in your life, and what will be in the future.

The closer the connection, the more difficult the separation, but it helps to realize that everyone has more than one soul mate. Some are more compatible than others, but all are meant to enter and leave your life when they do, meaning all relationships appear to be spiritually contracted, including the length of time to be spent together. Expectations of “growing old” with a partner are the norm in our society, but in many cases it’s not meant to be.

As we wrote in our book Your Love Life and Reincarnation, published in 2002, almost all relationships include karmic ties. In other words, one person owes the other, they both owe each other and their connection is necessary for growth and payback, or a similar situation exists. Perhaps there is unfinished business or the two souls agreed, before incarnating, to reunite in order to learn some lessons or accomplish a certain goal.

For someone grieving from the loss of a loved one, we would like to suggest a new outlook. We recommend viewing love interests as opportunities for growth and allowing them to be what they’re meant to be, rather than all or nothing, or assuming they’ll be “the one” for life. Such an outlook eases the difficulty of accepting what is and what is to be, that which you can’t change.

Loss can be devastating, but at least with this perspective, it can be easier to digest when it doesn’t work out as it “should have.” Although that seems to deflate romantic notions of “forever,” know that love really is forever on a spiritual level, not on this physical plane. It’s helpful to view soul progression in lifetimes, not just one existence, as each soul has an agenda that stretches throughout time.

That brings us to the popular phrase, “love of your life.” Perhaps “love of your life so far” or “one of the loves of your life” are much more appropriate since you haven’t lived your entire life and met all the potential love interests yet. This way of thinking does not diminish what you had with past loves since every relationship is different, and you may have a lot to look forward to no matter what your age.

Is a lost love destined? Is feeling a deep sense of loss a natural part of personal fate? We believe so, since the comprehensive astrology and numerology charts clearly indicate unions and separations, among other circumstances. Most experience the loss of love at one time or another. It may be someone they didn’t know that well, someone with whom they were involved for years, or even someone they are still involved with but the spark has died for one or both.

From a spiritual perspective, feeling a sense of loss serves any number of purposes, including, but not limited to the following: it allows you to appreciate more what you had (and will have again); it allows you to experience first-hand the cyclical nature of life; and in some cases, it may even allow you to balance the scales of karma for the loss others experienced due to your actions in the past. But don’t feel guilty over the possibility of past life negative actions as long as you are “doing the right thing” in all situations during this life.

For those who lost a love that may have seemed like “the one,” even though you never had the chance to come together, this type of love loss can also be upsetting, especially if there is a strong past life connection. Perhaps you met and spent time together at work or on vacation. Although the connection has run its course, you still think about the person a lot. However, if you had spent more time together, you may have realized that the person only represented what you wanted or felt you needed in your love life. “What could have been” may have been more of a fantasy. The time spent together was all that was meant to be, for now, maybe, in part, to further establish a link to be continued on a much deeper level the next time around. Remember, the spiritual reasons for the events in your life may seem illogical, and the fated outcome is often at odds with plans, expectations, and hopes.

For those who lost a very compatible and rewarding relationship, past life regression is a great tool to return to a lifetime where you were also together in a loving relationship, and even to a future lifetime (through future progression) when you’ll have the opportunity to love each other again. It will also help to calm your mind and heart to realize this lifetime is just a part of a long tapestry of love.

For those who had to leave a relationship due to dangerous circumstances, such as abuse, alcoholism or drugs, but still cannot seem to let go of the person, cut the spiritual ties that bind. Consciously and visually surround yourself with White Light, cut any cords connecting you and the other person, and fill the empty places where the cords were with White Light. Do this daily until you feel the effects and ask for spiritual help in the process, from whomever you pray to. Let go of them and any anger the best you can. Forgiveness will heal you and help you move on.

Every relationship is different and even though grieving for a lost love isn’t easy, know that there may be a future lover waiting in the wings for a relationship that is even better than you have ever imagined. But dwelling on “what could have been” or your loss will not help to usher in a happier future.

Also know that, based on past life regression research, you have likely loved hundreds of times or more in hundreds, if not thousands (or many more) of past lives. It’s also possible that you will be with that person in a future life, in one way or another, when the timing is better for both of you. In the mean time, let go of this person the best you can. This will not release the memory of them from your life or the possibility of being together again, but remove them as a potential block in your current love life.

Love Connection Strong Enough for Marriage?

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A compatible relationship is what most people strive for, and it’s always nice to hear about a happy couple in a fulfilling relationship.

People wanting to get married would be smart to seriously consider the following questions: What do you seek through marriage? A ceremony to declare your love and a chance to get together with family and loved ones? Romantic partnership permanence? Do you hope it will add something to your connection that you feel is absent at this time?

Marriage was originally intended for practical and economic reasons. People could not survive unless they pooled their skills and resources. Due in part by romantic fantasy perpetrated by movies and fairy tales, marriage today includes unrealistic expectations such as being someone’s “everything” for life. Surprisingly, even with the high divorce rates, this tradition is still a popular choice.

Some say it’s because you need marriage for kids, or that marriage is about commitment. But you can be responsible parents or commit to each other without a marriage license.

Those who oppose marriage contend that legally binding agreements, in an attempt to cement relationships, primarily reflect fear and a lack of trust and are more about money than love.

There is no level of compatibility “good enough” for marriage, because two individuals who are very compatible now may not be in ten years.

Furthermore, marriage is just a legal construct that has nothing to do with unconditional love, which is what many claim to marry for. By unconditional love, we’re referring to a lack of conditions such as “If you do this for me, I’ll do that for you.”

Ideally, marriage would be completely about unconditional love. It wouldn’t be like modern marriage is today.

There would be no unhappiness about a partner not doing what they are expected to do financially, there would be no disputes about having to spend time with the partner’s friends and family, and there would be a lack of expectations in the bedroom, just to name a few.

As we have constantly found in our work, most relationships have time limits, as do friendships and business associations. Sound unromantic? Truth isn’t always romantic, but embracing it will save you a lot of heartache. You don’t have to physically leave a relationship for it to be over, as many married couples will tell you if they are brutally honest. Additionally, children know when their parents are unhappy and all too often the parents end up setting a bad example relating to complacency and deceit.

How can you tell if a romantic connection has seen better days? A few examples include the following: all attempts at spicing up the bond fall flat; one or both partners become increasingly interested dating other people; sex becomes routine and boring or nonexistent; the sexual attraction fades significantly or disappears; one or both feel as if they have learned as much as they were supposed to learn; and it simply doesn’t feel right to stay together.

Life-long, satisfying monogamy is desired by many, but is it natural or realistic? Some couples completely lose interest in sex with each other and settle for companionship or are willing to make great sacrifices and be unhappy in order to avoid ending their relationship, but more and more couples are accepting that most relationships are not meant to last forever.

In our view, love relationships serve primarily as grounds for shared spiritual lessons and goals, rather than the currently accepted, outdated, fear-based sociological standard as outlined above. Many norms in society will be seen as absurd by future generations, and we expect that traditional marriage will be one of them.

An aside, for those who desire to deepen their understanding of their partner (especially before getting married), compatibility analyses involving psychic insight, comprehensive astrology, numerology, and graphology outlining key challenges and rewards is a great way to open the door to more love.

We recommend to those considering marriage to communicate with their partner about commitment, and discuss feelings about money, children, relatives, friends, etc. But don’t expect or even hope that the love would be permanent if you got married, since no couple is compatible enough to meet and exceed the present day expectations of marriage.

“Getting married to make a relationship permanent is like buying a summer home to make summer last forever.”

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