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“Will our love grow enough for marriage?”

One cannot “grow love enough to marry and raise a family.” It’s either there or it isn’t, in our view, and if the comprehensive numerology and astrology charts firmly indicate that there isn’t enough of a connection between two people for a long term relationship, then it’s a losing proposition.

Too often people are too young to begin a long-term relationship in which life-long monogamy is expected. In our opinion, since people tend to change and grow so much in their 20s, marriage contracts should be valid only for those over 30, but people will do what they are predestined to do, for better or worse.

It’s pretty simple. Relationships that work out are destined to last, and relationships that don’t are not. What will be will be, and to fight fate and resist that is to create more stress and heartache. And like we always say, yes, you do have free will (in this case, to make the most of your relationships and work things out when possible), but only within the confines of your destined path.

By destined path, we are referring to personal fate and karma, as outlined by numerological and astrological patterns in comprehensive charting methods. After witnessing the constant repetition of natal and cyclical timing patterns directly relating to personality, events, and circumstances in people’s lives, you too will embrace the notion of fate. Various levels of compatibility exist, as reflected in the charts.

If you are struggling with a doomed relationship, know that there will eventually be other options for you. Hang in there.

Can Two People Be Incompatible?

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Sometimes people are drawn together like magnets, yet the compatibility is questionable. It’s not smooth sailing to say the least, and trying to make it permanent is akin to strapping a 45lb weight to your back for the rest of your life.

Might the inability to part ways, the intense draw, be a mysterious working of fate? Yes. “Soul mate” connections very often include plenty of strife and heavy lessons, without the presumed romantic bliss.

Based on our comprehensive astrology and numerology work, two people can absolutely be incompatible, yet they may stay together for other reasons. Know that person A might have great overall compatibility with person B, but not with person C. Varying, unique degrees of intellectual, emotional, spiritual, physical and sexual compatibility exist between every couple.

Despite a lack of compatibility, some such couples say no amount of effort is too much to save a relationship if they are deeply in love. We recommend looking at what “deeply in love” really means to you.

What exactly do you feel for the person and why? Is there an early life, dysfunctional dynamic being played out for either or both of you? Is the connection held together by guilt due to one or both of you being afraid to walk away? Exactly how much sacrifice is involved for you or him? Is it really a great connection, or is it more about what they do for you or voids they fill for you? Are you afraid to be alone? Are you concerned about financial security? You’ve got to be brutally honest with yourself if you want clarity.

Every person you meet is for a different reason, or reasons. It’s not easy to overrule your heart and be totally objective in your romantic life, but it will save you heartache. Dating is easier when you accept each situation for what it is instead of trying to cast a play (husband or wife role, provider, etc.).

To help you understand more about romantic compatibility, we’ll list some of our findings. We have yet to invalidate the following considerations through our extensive work over the years: some romantic connections include questionable compatibility, but the shared or compatible timing (long-term or short-term) serves as the foundation of the draw; some connections are horrible, but the “unexplainable” draw is intense and serves to help them fulfill the karmic implications of this particular “soul mate” connection (one or both “owe” each other in not so pleasant ways); some people have great life-long love karma, some people have fair life-long love karma, and others have terrible life-long love karma; one’s personal timing (long-term and, or short-term), if very good in relation to love-life, can symbolically, somewhat mitigate one’s life-long challenging love-life karma; one’s personal timing, if very challenging in connection with love, can symbolically wreck one’s love life even if they have great life-long love karma (as reflected in the patterns in the comprehensive charts).

We feel that a highly compatible match does not need a lot of “work” or compromise. If you are complete by yourself and have your life together, finding someone to share it with should not require you to give up your goals, friends, hobbies, or what you’ve worked hard for.

At the same time, compatible, harmonious matches that also share a high degree of sexual chemistry are few and far between for most people. Some people would rather be with someone who is semi-compatible, or not compatible at all instead of being alone. Others are content to be alone and concentrate on other areas of their life, like career, until they meet someone they feel is worth sharing their time with. It’s up to you, yet our work tells us that people are largely going to do what they are predestined to do, so as long as you remain objective and respond with compassion and unconditional love, you’ll be fine.

Redefining How You Perceive New Love Interests

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If a woman is attracted to a man, it’s in her best interest to tell him. Many guys won’t flirt or make it clear that they are romantically interested in you until you make it obvious that you are interested too. Don’t over-analyze it, just go with the flow and realize that rejection, if it happens, is just part of the dating process.

It’s best to avoid thinking in all-or-nothing terms (the beginning of a wonderful relationship, or nothing). Just let it be what it’s meant to be. Most relationships, no matter how brief, offer valuable rewards and lessons.

Too many people expect a new love interest to be “the one” and avoid those who aren’t exactly all they demand in a partner (and too often, they personally don’t even meet those excessive demands). After a date or two they learn that the person does not fulfill every single item on their ideal romantic partner list, so they bail and start looking for the next one (or stay with that person until they find another so they don’t have to be alone).

It’s a good idea to remember to let each connection be what it’s meant to be and stop looking for perfection and expecting your date to be what he or she “should” be. Very few people you’ll meet will be even close to “the one” and you’ll only enjoy longer term, rewarding, hassle-free, compatible love relationships if you’ve earned them, in a karmic sense (as can be outlined through comprehensive numerological and astrological charting).

Being together in a fulfilling decades-long relationship is the fate, in our view, of some couples. Also, being married or partnered in a strictly monogamous relationship for 20, 40, or even 60 years is desired by many, but is it always for the highest good of all involved? No. To think that you can avoid complacency and growing apart, and to demand emotional, mental, romantic, and sexual fulfillment for decades with the same person (especially when two people marry young) is silly. A better approach is to drop all expectations upon entering a relationship. If it’s destined to be long-term, great. If not, be grateful for the experience, wish him or her well, and move on.

Rarely, if ever, do people know all the hidden, behind-closed-doors details about those dear, elderly couples who stay together for decades. Remember, you were blacklisted from society only a couple generations ago if you got divorced, so some couples stayed together, suffered, and played the game to avoid being ostracized. Plus, men and women had fixed, specific roles back then, so if they divorced, who would cook for him and who would do the yard work for her?

Today, many still hope to have a “lifetime” relationship, but an increasing number are acknowledging that divorce is reasonable for couples that grow apart. If handled maturely and fairly, divorce can be a good thing for both people (and if it’s unavoidably a more challenging situation, then, in our view, it was meant to be that way). Those who refuse to acknowledge this seem to have dependency problems, fear about being financially secure, have difficulty being alone, have a rough time with change, or perceive relationships too idealistically.

More and more people are accepting the notion that if one person is unhappy and wants out, then it’s pointless to stay together, and selfish of the other person if he demands she stay. You might say, “what about the kids?” Kids know if their parents are just going through the motions and doing so sets a bad example. Besides, a family doesn’t have to “break up” if the parents are both mature enough to remain friends, or at least civil and fair to each other.

By the way, we advocate legal agreements (however “unromantic” they may seem) between two adults before having any children, whether or not they get married, to protect the children and help minimize future disagreements and problems between their parents.

What you hope for in your romantic life might be destined, but if it’s not, as long as you react to fate with unconditional love and compassion, you’ll be on good ground.

Asking Santa For Your Soul Mate

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We are convinced, based on our research, that everyone has many soul mates, not just one, and no soul mate connections are perfect.

There are many “experts” who say you can meet your “soul mate” simply by purchasing their love spell, following their plan, reading their book, attending their seminar, or praying to the right angels.

Most of these “experts” fail to acknowledge that you can’t just have what you want right now if it’s not meant to be. Instead, they pander to the instant gratification demands of the general public. Too many ignore the importance of getting to know yourself on all levels, discovering what you need to accomplish in this life, and other higher-minded values.

Promoting captivating half-truths and wishful thinking dressed up in sophisticated-sounding phrasing might fatten profits, as many “best-selling” New Age authors have found, but in the end it only serves to mislead and add to the massive New Age misinformation heap.

Sure, we appreciate inspiring and creative writing, especially when it’s grounded in truth instead of cozy escapism. When one simple idea is stretched into pages of wistful, much-about-nothing, long-winded prose, and one concise paragraph could have outlined the point, it just confuses the reader. Really, truth isn’t complicated, and you should be wary if you have to read a passage more than a few times to get its meaning.

We agree that the Universe (or God, or your Angels, or your Guides, or your Higher Self) does respond to questions as we’ve experienced the benefits of this countless times.

But as we’ve said before, we disagree that you can have something just because you want and ask for it, unless it’s part of your destined path, regardless of how much you heal yourself and regardless of how much energy and inspiration you direct toward your desire. There is no Santa Claus. If you could receive anything you wanted in this lifetime, you could just ask for and receive the winning lottery numbers or anything else, even if it didn’t match your destined path.

To avoid disappointment and wasting your time, it’s important to be your own Santa and not expect rewards from anyone or any power outside yourself just because you feel you’re entitled to them. You only get what you want if you’ve earned it, often times through past life, not current life, behavior and action. Just because you’ve been “good” in the recent past, doesn’t mean you’ll be rewarded for that now.

Regarding twin souls or true equals, it’s debatable whether they really exist or if the concept is absolute New Age nonsense. If you’re referring to someone who is your most compatible match (which may or may not be a lasting, rewarding relationship connection, depending upon your personal love karma), then yes, we do feel everyone has soul mates who are more compatible than others. But if you’re hoping for your “other half,” someone who is a “perfect” match with whom you’ll have the ideal relationship, we must inform you that based on our research, we feel that concept is pure fiction and fantasy.

If you view love relationships as a means to fulfill an emptiness inside of you, or something that will give you all that you dream of emotionally, sexually, mentally, spiritually, or financially, you can be confident that your outlook on love is unbalanced and unrealistic. In time, you will be forced to face any feeling of lack you hoped to eliminate through connecting with another person.

Does that sound a little harsh to you? We would rather blatantly present our findings and our professional opinions than lead you down a primrose path of illusion like we see happen too often in today’s New Age marketplace.

Concerning love spells, we advise against them for two reasons. The first is that when you cast a spell, you are accessing and bringing forth energy that may not be for the highest good of all involved or that may even be dangerous if not used correctly. While Wicca spells, for example, can be very beneficial, we feel only those serious students of Wicca who understand what they are doing should dabble in spells. The second is that it’s not anyone’s right to manipulate another person, and sometimes love spells encourage this.

Also, we firmly believe, through years of observation, that karma overrides spells. In other words, someone might be able to “create” a life circumstance through worship or spell-casting, but it won’t last (and could possibly be harmful) if it isn’t harmonious with one’s karmic and fated plan.

We encourage you to learn to enjoy being independent and make the most of yourself on all levels now so you’re ready for the right person at the right time. We are also supportive of the idea that it’s necessary to know yourself and what you want in a relationship if you want to make the most of your love life. A simple question to whomever you pray such as “What’s my next step to improve myself and my love life?” can work wonders. Ask this as often as you need to for insight. With practice, you’ll find that asking before bed will often result in waking up with answers or awareness.

Ultimately, the only way to have an authentically happy love life is to stop looking outside yourself for love. Think about that.

Many Soul Mates

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Metaphysically defined, a soul mate is someone you have known in a prior existence. Soul mates are not always love connections and some are more pertinent to your earthly purposes than others.

Regarding soul mate love connections, we and other respected experts in this field have found that everyone has many soul mates; the notion that there is a “one and only” is a myth perpetrated by fairy tales and movies.

We hope this information will make it easier for those who are still hanging on to terminated romantic relationships to let go if it’s not meant to be and look forward to the next one. One way to determine if it’s not meant to be is to let the situation be without trying to manipulate it or anyone related to it. If things then seem to go in the direction you hope for, great. If not, then you are free to move on, make the most of yourself, and look forward to the future.

Also, please realize that everyone is already complete. You don’t need anyone to complete you. If you feel like you are incomplete and need someone to make you whole, you may be in need of doing some personal healing work.

As unappealing as it sounds, the challenge of grieving a relationship that has ended is an opportunity for growth and furthering one’s self-awareness. This is what life is all about: opportunities for growth, and how you handle them. Yes, life is also partly about the fun stuff, like romantic love, but life is more meaningful and enjoyable when you accept its challenges and approach them from a higher-self, detached perspective.

Significant love relationships happen and then dissolve when they are meant to. Life goes on, and you will meet other soul mates in the future. Through many years of working with past life regression and comprehensive astrology and numerology, we are confident in our ability to identify important spiritual connections and the timing of such.

The best thing that anyone can do after a love relationship has ended is to accept that it’s over. Be grateful for the time you had with that person, and when you think of him or her, wish them well and let go. Meditation helps with this process, as do our audio meditations for love life.

“Do I have bad relationship karma?”

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It’s rare that people have such good relationship karma that they truly (without any self-deception) have a solid, happy, fulfilling, compatible, monogamous, life-long relationship.

Yes, there are many couples who stay together for years and years, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is or has always been compatible or harmonious. It’s very common for couples to stay together and turn into roommates with wedding rings because they fear being alone, having less money, or for other reasons.

Love is forever, but most relationships are not. By this we mean that love is the glue that draws people together again and again throughout lifetimes. Couples usually meet again primarily, from a spiritual perspective, for learning lessons and personal growth instead of just for romance and companionship. When those lessons are fulfilled, it may be time to move on.

However, in our society, great emphasis is placed upon relationship longevity. A relationship or marriage is considered to have “failed” if it didn’t last a lifetime. This way of thinking not only sets everyone up for disappointment, but is unrealistic.

Nobody expects their first job out of high school or college to last forever, or that every friendship will never end, and dropping such expectations for love relationships is wise, in our opinion. Everyone changes and grows at different rates and has different lessons to learn. You can’t cast someone for a relationship theatrical production and expect them to fit comfortably into that role for a lifetime.

Sometimes people are meant to be single for a while for some reason other than it just being about bad relationship karma.

Your life circumstances are reflected in your numerological and astrological timing, which is different for everyone. Sometimes you’ll have rewarding love timing, meaning more fulfilling and compatible relationships, and sometimes you won’t, and some people have much more of it than others throughout their lives. If you don’t like the way things are going now, they’ll eventually change. If you are curious about when your love timing will get better, comprehensive numerology and astrology offer tremendous insight.

Our unique delineation and prediction work tell us that relationships, and how long they last, are destined. We’re referring to the energy between two people that makes them fascinated with one another and when the appeal (sexual and otherwise) is still there months and years later, as it was in the initial stages of the connection, not the type of relationship where two people know that it’s “over,” but stay together anyway.

Therefore, it’s best to try to let go of expectations for “permanence” when becoming involved in a relationship and just accept the situation for what and how long it is meant to be. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to work out problems (since working out problems is a major reason why you’re together in the first place), just that it’s better to go with the flow.

What about some “experts” telling you that you can have a life-long relationship and that all you have to do is keep it “new” and “fresh?” Yes, perhaps some of these techniques can help renew an already relatively strong connection, but they won’t revive something that’s dead or inspire what was never there in the first place.

It may be difficult, but try to be grateful for the time you’ve spent with compatible matches in the past, what you’ve learned from the more challenging relationships you’ve had, and perhaps most important, the benefits of alone time when you’re not in a relationship. Expressing gratitude has a magical way of helping to let go of the past and welcoming more positive experiences into the present.

Cheating Boyfriend’s Handwriting: True Personality is Revealed Through Handwriting Analysis

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How do you know if your lover is telling the truth?

Perhaps the only way to know for sure is to catch him or her with another lover.

Alternatively, while graphology (handwriting analysis) provides insight about potential current and future behavior, it won’t give you a definitive yes or no that he or she is cheating and being dishonest.

However, it’s possible to get an extremely clear idea of a person’s true personality, such as if they lack integrity. In order to do this, that person would need to write at least a 1/2-3/4 page of spontaneous writing about his or her current romantic situation. Indications such as insincerity and integrity issues showing up throughout the writing sample could give you a good idea about his or her actions.

Graphology is so informative because it reveals subconscious character, the real personality, not just the persona and the one seen when a person is at his or her best.

Relating to romantic relationships, a good handwriting analysis can tell you if a person fears commitment, avoids conflict, lacks a good sense of discernment (necessary to identify and understand personality and relationship issues), is emotionally mature or immature, is impulsive, fears intimacy, is restless, is self-conscious, lacks self-esteem and ego strength, has an excessive interest or disinterest in sex, fears success, fears trusting others, has a tendency to withdraw, and much more.

The topic of dishonest lovers brings up an important point about honesty in our society. Too many people think that if no one finds out that they lied, robbed, or cheated, they “got away with it.”

In reality, the eyes of truth are always watching, so everything you do and say creates karma and comes back to you. We’ve seen it played out repeatedly through past life regression, and we are convinced that there exists an automatic accountability system in this universe; everyone really does reap what they sow.

Love, Relationships & Reincarnation – Power of Love & Forgiveness Won’t Allow You to Cheat Fate

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Through our empirical research, we’ve found that a wonderfully harmonious bond (and variations of it) between two people, whether it is a work, family, friendship, or love relationship, is either there, or it isn’t.

We’ve also found that past lives with other people strongly influence what is experienced with them today.

Therefore, past life regression, when the focus is on the root cause of a problem and forgiveness, can definitely help to heal present life relationships.

Don’t believe in reincarnation? It doesn’t matter.

Whether past life scenes perceived in past life regression are real or imagined, both believers and skeptics can benefit from this powerful therapy.

But can the power of love and forgiveness alter destiny?

If a relationship is meant to end, based on the personal timing of the individuals involved and what they (their souls, not their personalities) decided before incarnating, can they (their personalities) choose to override that?

Well, as we’ve said before, our position is that you can’t cheat fate. Of course, the couple could stay together if they really wanted to, but it would likely feel unnatural (if they were honest with themselves) and potentially cause a lot of stress.

The good news is that if you change your perspective of love relationships by dropping your expectations (for permanence, someone to “complete” you, and the other relationship traps in our society that you’re conditioned to embrace) and accept each relationship as it’s meant to be, they become less difficult and more satisfying. Of course, starting with a solid foundation of self-love and respect is important too.

Our comprehensive numerology and astrology (compatibility and individual personal cyclical timing), along with psychic/intuitive readings indicates to us the level of compatibility and the timing of relationship rewards and challenges.

For example, we could indicate, on a scale of 1-100, just how compatible you are with your mate as seen through our work.

Also, we could indicate the duration potential of your bond. In other words, we’d tell you when things were, are, and will be “good” and when they aren’t, along with our professional opinion as to if the relationship has “seen better days.”

Love Life Affirmations to Assist With Being Unhappily Single or Suffering in a Marriage

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Although you can’t cheat fate, affirmations are helpful in dealing with life’s challenges.

Single and hating it? Say the following until you feel and mean it, and then say it some more: “I’m single for a reason, so I’ll accept and be grateful for things as they are and make the most of my situation.”

The saying “a watched pot doesn’t boil” is relative to the idea of waiting for a good relationship partner. Sometimes it seems like you’ll never find someone, yet that’s the time to do other things in your life such as prepare for when you have a partner. Once you get to the point of enjoying being single, attracting someone doesn’t seem like such an impossibility.

However, We’ve found a strong link between how a person feels about finding a partner and their love life timing as seen through comprehensive numerology and astrology. For example, during the times that are most challenging as a single person, the times that a person most feels alone, for instance, patterns reflect the least likely time that he or she will attract a good partner. It appears that fate dictates much of life no matter what approach is taken, but you can make the most of your life within those boundaries.

Suffering in a marriage but don’t know if you should end it or not because you are afraid of hurting your spouse? You may be hurting your spouse (and yourself) more by staying in the marriage and preventing him or her from being with someone who is more compatible

In conjunction with the below affirmation, meditation will help you to be more centered and allow you to act for the highest good of everyone involved.

“I communicate openly, honestly, and with love and compassion.”

Twin Flame Soul Mate: More Myth Than Reality

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Many of us want to find our “soul mate,” a term often used to imply that there is one perfect partner for each individual. Metaphysically defined, a soul mate is simply someone you have known in a prior existence. Each person may have hundreds or even thousands of soul mates.

Edgar Cayce, one of the most successful psychics and medical intuitives ever in the United States, stated many times that there isn’t just one person out there who is perfect for you. He expressed in his readings that there are many love relationship possibilities for each person.

When you meet a soul mate, you may feel like you know the person but you can’t quite place from where. Your souls knew each other in a different time and place, although your present personalities usually don’t remember the details. You may have been lovers, siblings, relatives, friends, acquaintances, coworkers, or even enemies. You may instantly like or even love the person, or you may instantly dislike him or her.

Soul mate relationships that develop into love relationships take many different forms, depending on the karmic reasons the couple has reunited again. The present life interaction also depends on how much of their own baggage they’ve worked through, how much they take responsibility for their behavior and their lives, and how aware and honest they are with themselves and others.

There is always a reason for two souls reuniting. It may be due to unfinished business, such as one owing the other in some important way. It may be in the form of a project they are to complete together, such as the birth of and caring for a child. Sometimes it’s a test, to see if they can interact without hurting each other.

Some souls reunite simply for the purpose of enjoying each other again and have little or no negative karma to work through. They may have earned this relationship of harmony through many lifetimes of working through their conflicts.

These are the kind of relationships sometimes portrayed in romance novels. Many of us fantasize about having these kinds of relationships, where there’s little conflict and an excess of love, admiration, acceptance, and respect. Few of us, unfortunately, experience them.

A twin flame or soul has been defined as a soul who was created at the same time as you and who may be your “other half.” Based on our research we feel this definition of twin souls is the result of earthbound thinking. We don’t “pair off” with only one partner in the spirit world. Pairing off here on Earth and hoping for a lifetime relationship with the same partner often seems motivated by a fear of being alone and/or a fear of abandonment.

A different definition of a twin soul could be a soul mate with which you have shared many lifetimes and, through those experiences, perfected the relationship. This soul is one of the most ideal soul mates for you—assuming you both get your current personalities and hang-ups out of the way.

In his book Edgar Cayce on Soul Mates, Kevin J. Todeschi suggests yet another definition: “The primary distinction between soul mates and twin souls is that soul mates are brought together as a means of assisting both people in soul growth and twin souls often come together in an effort to achieve a joint task or a united work.”

Cayce also indicated that twin souls are not always romantically involved and that there is more than one twin soul for each person.

Hence, while most people associate a soul mate with romance, the main purpose has to do with personal growth, often through trials and challenges. In fact, many of our clients who have been in soul mate relationships say they are hesitant to get into another one, yet they realize that they’re here on Earth primarily to learn, not just to get what feels good. Additional information about soul mates and twin flames can be found here.

How do you know you’ve found a relationship soul mate? Sometimes it involves intense feelings from the very start, other times it’s not so obvious. Are you sexually compatible? Is there lots of passion in your relationship? What about trust and mutual respect? Do you share the same views about love and relationships? It’s possible to determine how compatible you are with another person through numerology, astrology, handwriting analysis, and past life regression.

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Category Archives: Love Life

“Will our love grow enough for marriage?”

Can Two People Be Incompatible?

Redefining How You Perceive New Love Interests

Asking Santa For Your Soul Mate

Many Soul Mates

“Do I have bad relationship karma?”

Cheating Boyfriend’s Handwriting: True Personality is Revealed Through Handwriting Analysis

Love, Relationships & Reincarnation – Power of Love & Forgiveness Won’t Allow You to Cheat Fate

Love Life Affirmations to Assist With Being Unhappily Single or Suffering in a Marriage

Twin Flame Soul Mate: More Myth Than Reality